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The older I get, the less I let others decide what to wear or what to look like. After being treated poorly by lots of people for decades, I have realized that trying to normalize anything is useless. You don't need normalization to do it. The only thing you need is to just do it. When it comes to clothes, I basically wear sports clothing everywhere, be it a wedding or a business meeting. People sometimes block me at the entrance to a party but I don't care. If you don't accept me, I'll just drive my cow pattern Porsche 911 elsewhere. That is the true rock'n'roll lifestyle. Don't conform, be the trendsetter. It can pay off as it has paid off for me.
Hi, I am a 30yo zero-offspring single man. This childfree living is the way to go for me. Do some of you people have any tips for handling relatives that might start outputting some "fill the earth" style stuff if they find out that I underwent vasectomy (I got that operation this week) ๐ค I am happy with the procedure, I don't just want to get guilt tripping from my family or some friends. It's kind of frustrating because I am a Christian myself, and there is a risk some people start saying some very mean stuff in real life. It's a tough situation with some people, really. I don't want to hurt their feelings and don't want to say any mockery stuff to them, especially as I believe in "sky daddy" like they do, I just view some things differently from some of them, especially that "You have to make kids if you get married" stuff.
EDIT: I came to the conclusion on my own that there is just no reason to give a sheet about people's opinions, that is, if some relative starts being nasty, I can just leave that place immediately and put that person on my ignore list. I am just so bored with some people sniffing around and gossiping about things that are not their business. I am not dependent on those people. My first-degree relatives are all pretty cool fortunately, there just are all kinds of people further down in the family tree.
Hi! I basically escaped reddit a few hours after I made an account there. The childfree subreddit didn't allow new redditors to publish a story so that was it for me there. I removed the app and started writing new things here after a night sleep. Before sleep, around midnight in feelings of post-vasectomy childfree euphoria, I used almost 2 hours writing a reddit post and then it got autoremoved for not having enough karma or online time though ๐คช I have spent several thousands of hours on reddit without signing in anyway. Now, after that ruined reddit experience, I say with certainty that I like it better here in every possible way, anyway. Some rough times at reddit. Open is also better than closed when it comes to the web. As they say, Lemmy is the new Kilmister ๐ค (RIP 1945-2015, forever missed) โ ๏ธ
WARNING: CONTAINS TEXTUAL DEPICTION OF A VASECTOMY SURGERY
Shaving off testicular hair was mostly just inconvenient. The most painful thing was the alcohol they put on the skin of the testicles to kill the bacteria and other microbes before the surgery. They put alcohol to the penis too, though that did not hurt as much there, just moderately in the glans. I had a burning sensation in the testicular skin quite a lot for a minute or two, basically it was as painful as a heartburn. The spikes to numb the testicular area hurt somewhat also, especially the spikes used to numb the vasa, though that pain lasted for like a couple seconds per spike. They used about three spikes at that time. The actual surgery was mostly painless. A couple of times I started feeling a sharp pain in a small area during the surgery, the area being different both times. I asked for an extra spike both those times and got that basically almost instantly. And the pain did not last from the sensation to the administration of the numbing substance, the pain was there just for like a very tiny moment both times, probably the doctor paused doing his current action meanwhile. The resewing was also somewhat painful. They had taped my penis to my lower abdomen skin before the operation. The removal of the tape was less painful than a removal of a first aid plaster off a mildly hairy piece of skin would be even though I had a lot of hair down there. That was quite surprising. Well, the tape must not have had a very strong adhesive, basically, the tape was there mostly to keep the penis out of the way and out of danger. What did not, however, hurt at all, was grabbing and moving. I mostly did not feel any grabbing whatsoever during the actual surgery, I might have felt movement in the beginning maybe, was not bad. For a few seconds one time I felt some movement inside my lower stomach, that didn't hurt at all. I had to wear no underwear and no trousers during the above procedure, I was laying on a operating table with a curtain between my torso and the surgery area, no big deal, perhaps related to European culture. I had a cell phone in my hand and took some selfies and read online discussions on the Zig programming language. If allowed, I recommend taking something to do while being operated. It makes the procedure a lot nicer. The doctor was talkative so I at some point joined the talk with him and the nurses about arbitrary interesting things which was explicitly allowed to do also.
I had no anxiety relieving stuff or anyting like that, only took an antibiotic before going to the operation. I playfully think my vasectomy was a sort of an initiation rite to the childfree movement so I wanted to be have clear and conscious mind while being done my best operation in my whole life. And by the way, the surgery was such a sacred moment that my penis relaxed the whole time.
They told me that there were three contraceptive measures involved. 1) Cutting a piece of both vasa off (about 0.5cm or so for each vas), 2) burning the ends of the cut vasa and 3) bending & binding the vasa ends so that as far as I know, every end of vas points to basically in the opposite direction to the end close to it.
The operation was at some specific moments somewhat painful but 100% worth it. And it didn't take too long from a very experienced urologist. I am very happy that they did some actual "damage" to the vasa by that cutting-off-piece procedure and burning the ends so there is even less of a risk of that stuff ever failing (I am going to give a sample to a lab in a few months to make sure the surgery was successful).
It was a physically unpleasant operation but otherwise pretty euphoric. And now a little bit more than a day after the surgery, the bleeding is minimal as it was when I first got back home also. I took some basically over-the-counter pain med (under prescription to get it cheaper and the dosage is also bigger in those tablets (the latter point is useless for something one can buy from a pharmacy with no restrictions)) after the surgery but haven't taken any in about 16 hours. Most of the time I don't even notice any pain. However, I am going to take it easy for quite some days now as most painful incidents happen when people think they already healed and didn't.
Pain is temporary, not getting more children is forever - Some random philosopher maybe
Hi! The updated community logo is spanking! So cool! ๐คฉ There's one minor detail my hobbyist logo designer eyes caught that I would recommend tweaking. The character's black hand in front of the red bar could be separated from the red bar with a little bit of white between those two color areas. That would make it possible to print the logo by using only one color so that it would still be possible to tell apart the area of the hand in front of the bar from the actual bar in that situation. That would be especially useful in some fabric printing situations and also when printing on paper using rudimentary machinery. Otherwise, really nice ๐
EDIT: I mean just adding a white border between the above-mentioned parts, similar to those elsewhere in the logo.
EDIT: I posted a quick mockup to visualize what I mean.