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I guess what I was trying to say is that I am not willing to take up the risk of self-hosting my code or expend the effort to make sure this is well functioning and safe.

I agree, I am not sure if I am ready to make the move myself, but I have ADHD and this post may be just the motivation I need. I am using GitHub as glorified private git server, so the move shouldn't be too difficult. Any recommendations are welcome (thinking of codeberg at the moment)!

Aside from price, I have aspirations of open sourcing stuff this year so some issue tracking and CI/CD features would be appreciated (thought not necessary).

Edit: It seems codeberg is non-commercial, but there is a host for forgejo that seems interesting (https://gna.org/).

(I started a rant about self hosting, then realized it's completely irrelevant but I had already written it, so continue at your own risk)

IMO self hosting is not an option unless you are a sysadmin or somehow have a tonne of relevant experience.

I used to self-host GitLab, one weekend after about a month of being off my hobby projects I tried to login and the service wasn't available. At first, I panicked, I didn't know when my last backup was, but it was a while. In the end, my host was performing scheduled maintenance and a few hours after GitLab was running again, but that incident was enough to scare me away from ever self-hosting anything valuable ever again.

It's been a moment since I took the monotropism questionnaire, but I scored in the 200s.

The title makes me think that you discovered the monotropism questionnaire from the relevant video from "I am autistic, now what?". In case you haven't watched the video, maybe it's a good intro.

Other than that, I am myself trying to answer the same question. For me learning about autism has helped a lot. There have been a lot of moments of "doesn't everybody do that?" and "oh, that's why!".

If there are problems that lead to you taking the questionnaire, maybe it's worth seeking guidance from a professional. Though, sometimes it's hard to get proper help.

Regardless, if the result is true or not, it's worth it to take a look at your day to day life, see how monotropism is affecting you and if you can make any changes that would help. For example, at some point I realized one of the reasons I was avoiding hanging the laundry out to dry is that I hate touching wet fabrics, and mentally preparing myself for it made it a lot more bearable (still icky though).

yes! I mean pathological demand avoidance, I literally forgot there is another meaning to the acronym 🤣

The secret code has been found! Everyone spread the message!

It's like it was hit by a train!

Florida Man: Challenge accepted! It's going to be legendary!!!

Been using Eternity for quite some time. I like it, it's clean and modern, but I get a lot of bugs. Last week I couldn't see posts, then, I couldn't comment or save posts, and then posts were loading but I was seeing posts in communities I wasn't subscribed to. Sometimes logging out and logging in again helps.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Streisand_effect

The Streisand effect is an unintended consequence of attempts to hide, remove, or censor information, where the effort instead backfires by increasing awareness of that information. It is named after American singer and actress Barbra Streisand, whose attempt to suppress the California Coastal Records Project's photograph of her cliff-top residence in Malibu, California, taken to document California coastal erosion, inadvertently drew greater attention to the photograph in 2003.

(I needed a lesson myself)

I feel you. There would be times when I would prefer ordering a delivery to serving a plate of food I have already cooked.

Been struggling with eating disorder for the past few years, and the last year I have been trying (without success) to keep a healthy diet. Ordering delivery online is the biggest issue for me.

Buying groceries that I know I am going to throw has helped a lot. The shame of throwing rotten veggies has motivated me many a time to start cooking whatever is left before it's rotten, I view it as trigger to cook. Also, not having groceries can be a barrier to cooking.

I have trouble accounting for all the effort required to prepare a dish. Tasks like washing the dishes, buying groceries, cutting vegetable, etc take time and energy. If I don't plan for those, I will get tired at some point and completely give up cooking.

When everything seems too hard, I try to do something small. Usually, this is washing a couple of spoons or glasses. Sometimes this is enough to trigger my fixation and get buttload of work done. Because, this is not consistent my trick is doing often with zero expectations so I don't get discouraged.

Now, I am trying to constantly build excitement for cooking. It's a new experiment, but the idea is that if I have triggers around me that will remind me I want to cook, it make it easier for me to cook. I have installed a mirror on my living room (I don't like my shape right now, and that feels motivating somehow), and next I will pick some posters to hang around the house.

Thanks for the question, I hope I am able help even the tiniest bit.

Fuck, I am getting older.

I created my account during high school, now I am 25.

To be honest, I am grateful for the journey. I found Reddit when I needed it, I was spending too much time on 9gag and wanted to find something more productive to waste my time on. Reddit was, and still is, more than that.

TwoXChromosomes and gonewildstories are two subs that literally redefined my person.

I haven't deleted my account, nor do I plan to. But, I haven't used Reddit since my birthday on June 12th. I have been into the idea of the fediverse long before I first read about it, and I am here for the long run.

First of all, this post got me a bit worried about your mental health, is it possible you are under a lot of stress lately?

You are expressing something that I have been thinking too lately. Third parties, aka recruiters in this case, cannot be impartial if they are paid by one of the parties involved.

If you have an issue with your employer, you don't go to the HR, you get a lawyer. A person fully representing your interest, equipped with the knowledge to actually do that.

I think the same should be the case for employment seeking. It's not that you cannot build a network of colleagues, keep up with market trends, navigate legalities, and identify whatever new bullshit benefit companies are offering. But, delegating this job to a person/entity that specialises in it would most of the time be better.

Last but not least, I don't think the term recruiter is appropriate, and I believe transitional recruiters are not going to be willing to help you.

Best wishes on your effort!! Please keep us to date, I am interested to see where this leads!!