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I'm not even trans, but damn I want to wear women's clothes (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Clothes for dudes basically comes down to t-shirts and trousers. And for shirts, one's mostly limited to brands, bands, and sports teams. Or, even fucking worse, some pithy comment like "not married and happy", or "have drink, me good", or whatever the feck people find clever these days. I oftentimes default to the H&M look, as it's the least corny looking style I see, and that's not saying much.

Women's clothes have all these cute tops with no shit written on it. There's more variation in colours and shape. You can mix it up by having a half top (whatever you call those). Don't want to wear a top and trousers that day, then wear a dress or a skirt.

Obviously the huge advantage of being a guy is that you can be ugly af, indeed I am an ugly fecking dude, and you're accepted. I assume it's harder for women in this regard, let me know if I'm wrong.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

the huge advantage of being a guy is that you can be ugly af

FUCK YEAH BROTHER! party-sicko

That's the thing i fucking adore about cross dressing, like, yeah its more practical and everything, but wearing "men's" clothes just lets me exist as a person first and foremost rather than as an aesthetic performance as women are expected to be. By completely refusing to ever wear makeup or "women's" clothes or shave i have basically been able to opt out of the race; no one expects me to compete as "a woman" anymore and they seem to measure me on the same scales that they measure my male friends and colleagues, rather than how they judge other women because i just offer 0 data points on that scale. It's phenomenal.

its like how people say "ur gay lol" and you just go "yes.png" and it takes all the wind out of their sales. Like, you say that I'm ugly and not being a woman correctly? Yeah exactly lmao, deal with it. It's so freeing.

But yeah, there's nothing wrong with crossdressing comrade, I wish you the best of luck with it. I've been crossdressing everyday of my life since I was 14, and I'm cis too - it's just nicer to me ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯. I know that I will never have to dress as a "woman" ever again in my life and its the best possible feeling.

EDIT: But yeah no, to answer your question, is fucking awful for women who do play the game properly. The vast majority of my friends are fucking miserable about their bodies and a few can't even leave the house without makeup. the pressure for women to be physically appealing is constant and horrendous.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Yeah, one of the reasons I got into historical costuming is that previous eras at least acknowledged that women had to perform aesthetically, and leaned into the artifice. Of course, there is the whole utterly everything else about those eras that makes me glad I don't live there.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

aesthetic performance as women are expected to be

My partner has so many gripes about getting old and ugly (she's not ugly, BTW). She gets depressed a whole lot over it. No one deserves this shit.