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I heard once that anger is a misalignment with your expectations and reality. Once I heard that, it helped me navigate my anger a bit better.
Like, for instance, you expected better treatment and behavior from your Ex. I think it was totally normal and understandable to expect that. I'm angry at the inhuman cruelty of capital, because I expect to live in a world where people are good and kind to each other. You're right that anger can be a healthy drive, but anger can also be really overwhelming and get out of hand if you feed it too much, so you've got to slowly turn the burner down from "bout to go postal" way down to a calm simple "This is not what I expected. I deserve better.". At that very very low simmer, it's still a productive drive, it's still an affirmation of your dignity, but it hasn't become self-destructive or cruel.
idk, hope that helps, comrade
Anger is the response when attachment doesn't get what it wants