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What does masturbating or having sex physically feel like to you guys? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm in my early 30's and I've literally always been curious about this. I've never in my life had the ability to feel sexual pleasure. I've never been on any meds or had any sort of traumatic experiences...it's just the way I've always been even if I try. I'm old enough to say that I'm way beyond simply being a "late bloomer". It's just something I'll never experience.

But it often feels like I'm missing a minor sense like taste or smell or something. Everyone has always raved about the taste of dessert, but I've never been able to understand or experience it. Can you describe it in detail it for me? Not just the mental part, but the physical part as well?

Thank you.

Sincerely, An Outsider

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Don't let other people's experiences define your humanity. Being human is just part of the human experience. The fact that you felt compelled to ask this question shows a very human sense of curiosity. The way you phrased your question was polite and your explanation for your curiosity was revealing and impassioned. Most of all, the fact that you feel less human than other humans is the most human symptom of all. Humans are amazing at feeling less valuable than their peers based on incredibly specific factors. That's what makes social media so successful!

Unless you identify as something or someone non-human in which case, I'm sorry to tell you that you're likely going to spend the rest of your life being misidentified as a human and that's because humans like to imagine that other things experience the world in human ways and humans like to seek humanity in everything. We're a weird species, yo.