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What does masturbating or having sex physically feel like to you guys? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm in my early 30's and I've literally always been curious about this. I've never in my life had the ability to feel sexual pleasure. I've never been on any meds or had any sort of traumatic experiences...it's just the way I've always been even if I try. I'm old enough to say that I'm way beyond simply being a "late bloomer". It's just something I'll never experience.

But it often feels like I'm missing a minor sense like taste or smell or something. Everyone has always raved about the taste of dessert, but I've never been able to understand or experience it. Can you describe it in detail it for me? Not just the mental part, but the physical part as well?

Thank you.

Sincerely, An Outsider

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[–] [email protected] 40 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

For reference, since this is the most upvoted reply as of now, this is not a description I (and possibly other people) resonate with.

I'm not referring to prostate stimulation, I mean the concept of hornyness as a burden and orgasm as a an escape from it. I'll add that I would never in a million years pick a foot massage or scratching an hitch as preferrable.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago

I'd say that occasionally I have that 'horniness is annoying' although that tends to be when alone or frustrated because my partner is unavailable and I don't want to do it solo at that time. The vast, vast majority of time an orgasm is the best thing ever especially when shared with someone I love.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Yeah, I should've mentioned in the comment. I'm well aware this isn't the norm, especially for other men I've spoken to him about it.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago

Idk I'm with him. Orgasm just isn't something I care about. It's something I do when my body seems to demand it, and then I'm like "good, that's over with". It's something I've noticed since I grew out of my alcoholic horndog years. I didn't need sex, I needed to be loved, and, having that, I just don't care about sex anymore.

I still do it (mostly for my wife's sake), and I enjoy it when I do, but immediately afterwards it's back to not caring about sex at all.