Self Improvement
A community which focusses on improving yourself. This can be in many different ways - from improving physical health or appearance, to improving mental health, creating better habits, overcoming addictions, etc.
While material circumstances beyond our control do govern much of our daily lives, people do have agency and choices to make, whether that is as "simple" as disciplining yourself to not doomscroll, to as complex as recreating yourself to have many different hobbies and habits.
This is not a place where all we do is talk about improving "productivity" (in a workplace context) and similar terms and harmful lifestyles like "grindset". Self-improvement here is intended to make you a generally better and happier person, as well as a better communist, and any other roles you may have in your life.
Rules and guidelines:
- Posts should be about self-improvement. This is obviously a wide category, and can range from advice, to finding resources, to self-posts about needing to improve in a certain area, or how you have improved, and many other things.
- Use content warnings when discussing difficult subjects.
- Do not make medical decisions solely because of a discussion you have had with any person here (e.g. whether to take or not take medications; diagnoses; etc.) as we do not vet people. All medical problems should be discussed with a real-life medical professional.
- Do not post harmful advice here. If this is seen, then please report it and we shall remove it. If you are unsure about whether it's precisely harmful advice or not but feel uneasy about it, please report it anyway.
- Do not insult other users and their lifestyles or their habits (unless they ask, I suppose). This is a place for self-improvement. Critique and discussion about a course of action is encouraged over shit-flinging. Don't talk down to people.
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i'll bite: what is dbt and why is it better than whatever cbt is?
Dialectical Behavioral therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, respectively.
cbt = cock and ball torture
dbt = dialectical balls torture. It's better because it's dialectical which is a Marxist word
You don’t even know what they are and instantly want to disregard the entire premise?
To be fair you should have written out the full words instead of the acronym.
i'm a humble vibes whisperer.
DBT = making decisions and changes about oneself and the environment to further one’s goals dialectically
CBT = umm have you considered not being sad about climate change? Lol
fwiw all of my encounters with cognitive behavioral therapy have suggested that it concerns engaging in practices (journaling, breathing exercises, meditation practice, etcetera etcetera etcetera) aimed to develop more healthful and less debilitating patterns of thought, so i'm not really following what you're saying (if i'm affirmatively open to CBT, and i affirmatively engage in such practices, am i not implicitly "making decisions and changes about [myself] . . . to further [my] goals"? i'm not even being shitty or rhetorical: what would it mean to do, whatever we want to call this process or aim --of internal change, directed for our individual/communal/political betterment-- what would it mean, substantively, to do this process "dialectically", or to do this process by "applying materialism"?
would a dialectically-hip comm just entail providing a coda or preface on every request for or provision of advice, clarifying that we are asking for and providing such advice with the acknowledgement that we understand ourselves partly as individuals who enact change on an individual level, but we are seeking to do more and to be able to do more in light of our obligations to our environment/communities, and aren't just trying to sigma-grind and slay pussy? would it be a comm that is just really encouraging and tries to maintain a positive outlook in the answers it provides and receives? cause i'd agree with this, but assumed it was already what was going on.
no, look up what dialectical behavioral theory is
both cbt and DBT would use those practices, too. It’s just that cbt does it with very different goals in mind. Look at DBT on Wikipedia
"Dialectical" just means there's a feedback loop. In fact I'm pretty sure the word "dialectical" is just "dialog" as an adjective.
If you take a dialectical approach to self-improvement, it means you view the problem as a self-reinforcing feedback loop between a person's thinking and behavior and their external situation, rather than blaming everything on their thinking and behavior alone while ignoring where it comes from.
The dialectical treatment approach is to talk to the person to try to understand the feedback loop, then look for points in the loop where intervention is possible, not only in their thinking and behavior but also in their external situation, to yield a gradual improvement over time.