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Eh hard to say. Depends on the girl, what the website is. We would need more info.
But better to not worry too much about it. I think it's a mindset thing that can really bog you down if you're not careful. Does this person like me? Did I upset so and so? It can go to extremes pretty quickly if you let it. Honestly tho who cares. If people want to hang with you and talk to you, cool. If not, that's cool too. You're frankly too busy being awesome and doing your own fun shit to worry about it. When you are the one making the scene and doing the cool shit other people will naturally be drawn to whatever it is you're doing.
I say all of that because desperation is a stinky cologne and ladies will pick up on it quick. People generally don't want to be around people who try too hard or who are obsessive. First step to dating and relationships is you gotta be good with you.
When people pick up on the fact that you have a level of self respect and are not tripping over yourself to get their attention, they will naturally be attracted to you.
If this girl went cold meh, fuckkem. There will be others. There always are. And if she suddenly warms up again, cool, but it's not a necessity.