Huh. Maybe it's the communities/posts I've visited but I wouldn't agree with your assessment of an inherent negativity/hatefulness. Do you have examples we can discuss?
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I agree, Lemmy doesn't feel especially negative to me. That said, I use the Subscribed view instead of All, so I guess it's just about curation.
I also immediately block users who are obviously just trying to wind people up.
Fuck you I am full of love
Oh fuck off, Im way more loving than you dipshit.
Both of you are idiots, I've been a caring and empathetic person my entire life!
People on Lemmy have bailed from Reddit because they have principles. Stuff like Linux. The value of science/education. Lefty-ism (or whatever it's called in their region). FOSS. They are willing to cut themselves out from a larger community to foster one that is compatible with their principles.
From your comment history you seem to be posting stuff outside of Lemmy's core beliefs. That's great! But the people here really believe in those principles, so they react negatively to the comments.
I dunno what else to say. If we want Lemmy to be viable, we need to allow people with other views build communities here. We feel pretty close to a monoculture at the moment.
I hadn't really noticed that Lemmy is any more or less negative than Reddit used to be. I have noticed that most people on here are a lot more polite aside from the occasional trolls. Maybe the negativity is more of a trend in the specific communities you're visiting?
I've seen very little negativity on Lemmy in almost a year of using it.
I've seen the same thing and I think it's a conversation we need to have.
I think it's because Lemmy is populated by people who did not like Reddits changes. We are malcontents by definition, and holy cow does it show. And of course all the people that have had their Reddit accounts banned too.
I think everyone needs to take their tone down quite a few notches.
I also feel it's something that should be examined before too much more time goes by, as it was not like it is now right after The Day the API Died.
Everyone was very polite in a way I haven't seen since before everyone had useful Internet on their phone.
But it didn't take long to change. There was a small but vocal group that hated in Beehaw constantly for wanting to keep their space polite. There was another bunch that seemed offended that nobody was swearing and started to encourage it.
Just more and more things like that have crept in over the months. I get why mods have wanted to avoid the criticism of harsh Reddit modding, but Lemmy seems to have accepted that only being 3/4 as rude as we put up with in Reddit is still good enough.
As someone dedicated to carving out a hospitable and relaxing community for everyone here, it concerns me that there does not seem to be much curation of how Lemmy is growing.
We are technically decentralized, but certain groups are essentially operating out of specific servers. Much like the growth of real world communities, people come to where the action is and those servers will be the de facto Lemmy community which will spread our reputation.
I think World, ML, and other significant servers should start to actively take a stance on who we want to be. We can still welcome strong and dissenting opinions , but there isn't a need to treat each other poorly. Anywhere you'd go in person has varying rules of decorum, and I wouldn't mind seeing that take effect here.
It needn't be rigid or all at once, but we can work toward something we feel comfortable with as a collective user base and decide when to stop or roll back.
I just don't want to see the group of us as a whole turn into what we just left is all. I feel that would be a shame to squander what we've spent the last year building up.
Hello,
Thank you very much for your comment, I wholeheartedly agree.
At first we wanted people to join, so we were more lenient. I guess it is now time to protect the space, and not be afraid to take sanctions for people who are straight up rude.
Exactly. I'm not out to crap on anyone's good time, but like being a decent person in real life, it ends when it starts to cause other people a bad time.
I don't feel we're gaining anything of value by allowing ourselves to behave poorly. I'd like to see things in News and Politics for example focus more in direct action and campaigns we can take part in than posting ragebait type articles that get everyone mad. There's no shortage of other places we can go for that.
Say, instead of saying the president is allowing oil drilling in a supposed protected place, let us know who is supporting or opposing it, what groups are doing what to fight it, etc. All we get now is "it's Republicans doing it again" or "this is how Democrats are getting nothing done again," the same comments we've heard a billion times that don't do anything but work us up, no matter who we support.
We don't need to pretend we're happy all the time or spend all day watching our every word, but we could put our energy to better use.
There is [email protected] for positive or at least neutral conversation.
If you see too much negativity here, you are probably hanging out in toxic communities.
I saw your last post about Kaspersky on the Piracy community, sorry to see the comments you got.
Each community has its own vibe and moderation policy. A few of them are quite toxic, a few are very nice, the rest is in between.
I haven't found that at all. I have blocked a handful of communities, but most of them weren't particularly negative, just stuff I didn't want to see.
My previous experience is reddit, and I've found Lemmy to be far more positive, with exceptions.
Interactions with mods here are far less demanding and nitpicky. It's more like interaction and less like being told off.
Interactions with other users vary, but I'd say it is a net positive experience here. On reddit, other users were a net negative.
The exception is the reaction when you disagree with the consensus built up between a post and its comments. Whether it's reddit or Lemmy, you're going to have a bad time.
I think it's a facet of the largest Lemmy servers feeling (being?) more ideologically homogenous, itself in part because of how niche Lemmy still is compared to Reddit.
Many of the users came here after the API died and so made joining here an explicitly ideological choice.
People aren't here because their friends are here. Not really. Not yet.
They're here cause they want to be, because this is important to them or their beliefs or their identity.
That's totally valid and good and fine. But u should know and expect that when posting here, especially on the biggest or most general or politically volatile communities.
I've got negative interest in trying any Unix/Linux based OS on my home PC and I'm ambivalent about FOSS, but i recognize that being here will mean that putting up with a certain amount of "Windows bad" that i just have to laugh and shake off or stop coming here
Idk, because redditors came here?
The whole point of the fediverse is that you can do it yourself if you don't like the way existing instances operate.
But here it seems you're not interested in putting forth any effort at all: https://lemm.ee/comment/11445877
If you want to join someone else's community, expect to have to abide by their rules. You wanna make the rules, put in the effort to make your own community. Nobody's forcing you to be here. Bye now, don't let my block hit you on the way out.
My understanding is that the original devs of Lemmy are tankies, so the culture they fostered was very anti-western values.
I'm just as guilty of this as the next person sometimes, it sometimes seems like a struggle not to be your worst self online. I'm trying to be better, I think that's what we can do to combat it.
Personally id argue that i have experienced the most toxic behaviour by the mods of some communities. Overall i wouldn't say that Lemmy is more or less toxic than the rest of the internet or even that the mods are stricter. I've just gotten a few comment removals by communities that i never visit but that ended on my feed and i commented on something.
Looking at your post and comment history, it looks like you are, yourself, part of the problem. I see a number of pessimistic (or shit-stirring) posts, posts that appear to be in favor of "ancap", and commenting in piracy comms. Sorry to say it but, you may want to examine your own behavior before pointing at others.
I find Lemmy to be about on par with the popular (Front Page) Reddit subs. I tended to stay in smaller, more niche subs than Front Page subs and found them to be more polite and well-written, generally.
Lemmy isn't so bad, but we do clearly get some people who are here because they were banned from Reddit (and sometimes for immediately apparent reasons).
I think there's far more negativity in the comments of YouTube, Instagram, and especially Facebook.
But more than anything, I've seen more posts about negativity on Lemmy. So to me, it almost seems like the people coming to (or on?) Lemmy are more sensitive to negativity, maybe?
A lot of comments seem to disagree with you, so define Negativity? ( what do you consider to be negative behavior )
It doesn’t seem that way to me. What specifically are you seeing that gives you that impression?
I worry that merely accepting this as presupposed fact will make it more likely to become fact.
Im pretty sure many of my subscriptions are on lemmy and I have not noticed it. I mean there is negativity but its certainly no worse than reddit and not even sure if I can say its way less but I find things more authentic overall.
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Hatred drives engagement on any and all social media. Even ones where everything is made up and the points don't matter.
Maybe you just have some real shit hot takes.
Looking at their post history, they were banned from unpopular opinion after multiple posts just slagging off the platform. So yeah, some real shit hot takes.