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Pretty much what the title asks!

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I got a formal reprimand at work today, and I am emotionally exhausted right now.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

I have a hard time most of the time when I get constructive criticism at work!

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 months ago (1 children)

honestly watching certain tv shows and movies idk how people relax in front of things like gore and heart wrenching tragedy.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

I guess some people enjoy the action and the nervousness!

I have found catharsis in watching extreme violence, as an example

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 months ago

I think that varies wildly from one person to another. For me, housework is emotionally exhausting. So is making decisions that affect other people, like where to go for dinner. These are examples where it feels like a bad kind of exhausting. On the other hand, running a D&D game is a thing that's emotionally exhausting but that I still enjoy doing.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago (1 children)

It varies wildly from person to person, and my wife and I work so well as partners cause we have vastly different lists of what we consider exhausting.

Specifically for me?

  • Well-intentioned but unskilled people who insist on helping but don't have the capacity to do so or the self-awareness to understand when their efforts are counterproductive
  • Talking to my side of the family
  • Checking work emails. Not writing them. Just checking them.
  • Code-switching to talk to white people.
  • Watching shows or reading books I dislike just for the sake of completing them
  • Dealing with zoners in fighting games
  • Lingering in silent spaces.
  • Following recipes.

Talking to strangers? No issue. High intensity games? Let's do it. Complicated or arduous manual labor? Hell yeah.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Relate a lot to your first point. Sometimes people assume they can just chip in a bit and check out, not realizing the time investment to tell them what to do, how to do it, etc. I've watched YouTubers who own business that have fans saying they'd work for free but are refused for this reason.

Often times It's more valuable just to pay someone you know will stick around.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago
[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago

Dealing with angry customers. Or crying customers. Or unresponsive customers. Or the general public.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

I have BPD, so literally everything.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

My ex that I am not over calling me to come visit and that she misses me then saying that we have a slim chance of getting back together 😭😭😭 and my mother.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

Thinking of things that break your normal routines. Like I would try to think of maybe going somewhere new, but it'd take me so long to figure out where and I just ultimately settle on where I've been going.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

Job searching

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

Being in a bad relationship