She's a full foot shorter than me and she dresses punk and kinda masc and emo, has a pink mohawk she's growing out into a deathhawk, she's a huge weeb and nerd and we're into a lot of the same stuff, she makes her own cider and leathercraft and even blacksmiths sometimes.
Spent the night at her house after work Monday night, then spent the entire day with her. Cooked breakfast for us, then we took her dog out to a park so her mom could see pilates clients, then met one of her friends for drinks and some card games while we finished watching Scott Pilgrim Takes Off, then went to bed together one last time before I had to leave at midnight. All told we spent over 24 hours together and it was great and I'm super happy and I feel like she was the exact type of person I was looking for.
So it is worth it to go out there and use the stupid apps and try to date people because you might get lucky and find someone great. It can happen
you too can go from 
to 
If her defense is adequate then I guess your relationship isn't so problematic.
and violate your Volcel oath. 
(very happy for you. Congrats!)
