If you see a problem you can fix, it's best to fix it right away because very often it can become way worse if you leave it for later, costing more time, effort, and money to fix than if you just took care of it immediately. Everytime that little voice says "you can fix that later" you tell it to stfu.
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Similar: the five minute rule. If you're struggling to get started on a big task, do it for five minutes. Best outcome is that you keep doing the task, and it gets done. But even if you've had enough, then at least that's five minutes' worth you don't have to do later.
Try to eat healthy and perform a minimal workout every day. Eat more fresh fruits or vegetables. It's quick to make a simple yogurt bowl with fruit and granola, or a salad with lean meat or chick peas. Start with a few push ups, crunches, reverse crunches, and at least a 30 minute walk. Small changes gradually will help you feel better with how you look and feel with a small time investment.
Preach. Get a food scale!
I counted calories for a bit to eat healthier and balance my nutrition.
I stopped after 3 months but I quickly realized that serving sizes ae WAY smaller than you'd think.
A bowl of cereal or chips could be 2 or 3 servings. Donuts and muffins are garbage. Ham and cheese? Triple the ham and cut the cheese in half. Mayo is horrible but plain mustard is 0 cal.
I didn't eat any less but I made my meals healthier and lost weight without changing my workout.
I also ate bad stuff without cheating. Chicken salad for dinner and a scoop of ice cream for a late night snack under budget.
If you use fresh ginger root, you can use a spoon to scrape of the brown skin. Scrape the edge over the skin and it will just peel off.
I didn't believe how easy this was when at first I tried this.
Take a lunch break, both of those things, lunch and a break. Do anything other than work and sit down to eat something so you can enjoy it. Take a break in the middle of the day, you're worth it and you deserve it.
One of the hardest things for me. My relax space is home and I can't make it there on my lunch. My brain doesn't wanna switch out of work mode because then it could take way too long to switch back.
Can you go for a walk about? When my brain doesn't want to turn off work, I'll either watch something in netflix or listen to an interesting podcast while walking.
Smalltalk starter pack:
- (during the day) "So how's your day going?"
- (in the evening) "So how was your day?"
- (before the weekend) "what you up to on Saturday?"
- (before the week) "what's your week looking like?"
Easy small repeatable things that open people up. I use it on everyone, and I make sure that I care about the answer because I'm genuinely curuous
If you use q-tips to clean your ears, first use a wet one, and then a dry one. Did wonders for me.
Oh my goodness I just tried this. Thank you so much, stranger.
Take a few drinks if water first thing when you wake up.
About the shower, I hang my towel just outside of the shower and get it before I step out. I get myself mostly dry before stepping on to the shower mat.
Some of us have a habit of listening to that nasty little voice in our heads that says we're a failure, that we're weak, that we have to work harder than anyone else to just be.
Next time you hear it starting to list all the 'bad/wrong' stuff you've done, tell it to shut up ... and keep telling it to shut up every time you realize you're listening to it. Then think on a good thing you did for a friend or neighbour.
Self-flagellation should never be our bestie.
There is nuance to nearly everthing that exists. All of life happens with the grey area- perfectly balanced between the black and white boundaries most people refuse to look away from.
If you shower at the gym, you don't need a whole bath towel to dry yourself. A regular hand towel is sufficient, and it takes up way less room in your gym bag.
Bonus points for those really thin microfiber types. You wring them out as you go to get the majority of water off your body, the rest air dried quite quickly after that.
Wow!!
For the love of God. Get enough sleep. That shit will catch up to you when you're older.
Sleep debt is real and the interest rate is very high.
Hide an extra roll of toilet paper somewhere in the the bathroom, use for emergencies, tell no one. I smash one flat and put it up behind the false drawer covering the vanity sink.
Ah, the turkish cigarette trick!
We called it that back in the day, because turkish cigarettes were the absolute worst smoke you could have. But in need, a friend indeed...
If a child gives you anything, anything at all, blade of grass, shell at the seaside, whatever - take it with real, heartfelt thanks. It is all they have to give.
Use a whiteboard eraser to clean the dashboard offgas gunk off the inside of your windshield.
Get mental help, especially if you are a man. It's ok to cry, and doesn't make you any less of a person
And I'm going to add something that helps me talk to my therapist: "If it's mentionable, it's manageable."
After you've tried to deal with something yourself and haven't succeeded, telling someone about what's going on, no matter how unimportant or embarrassing or burdensome or shameful it feels, is the first step to living a life of contentment.
The ability to admit fault and learn from your mistakes is the most important quality that separates a grown person from an actual adult.
If you're ever randomly angry or sad for reasons that are out of your control and not the fault of anyone around you, make a small announcement. Something as simple as "I'm upset about X, sorry if it seems like I'm being short or snappy with anyone."
I've been upset about X ever since musk took over.
Protect your head when doing contact activities,sports, etc. Brain injury and seizures are a terrible thing to live with.
If anything out of the ordinary lasts more than 24 hours, get to a doctor!
Three days after Thanksgiving, 2018, I developed a really bad case of heartburn. "No big deal," I thought, "It WAS Thanksgiving and I DID have the extra plate of sweet potatoes..."
Super hard to sleep, couldn't get positioned right.
Monday, pepto did nothing.
Tuesday, same.
Wednesday, super nauseated, throwing up, called out sick from work.
Thursday, the heartburn moved into my upper arms, which I didn't know was a thing. Nausea was gone, but it was replaced by the feeling that there was a giant rock in the center of my chest, heavy, pulling down on all my insides.
Advice line sends me to the hospital, hospital runs a blood test and finds I've been having a heart attack.
Every time my heart beats, it only pumps out 30% of what it should, that heavy feeling was my heart getting heavier and heavier every heartbeat.
Doc says 30% is the line between walking around, talking to people... and not.
Thursday - Sunday, Cardiac Ward.
Monday - Open heart surgery, ICU.
Tuesday-Thursday - Cardiac Ward. You'd think they'd let a dude rest after cracking you open like a lobster, fuck no! Get up and walk!
Friday - back home.
Do super soft yoga in the morning.
When i tell people i do yoga every day before work, they think its MUCH HARDER than it is. I get up, drink a whole glass of water, and sit on my mat. If its cold, i use a space heater. I put on an easy yoga video on YouTube (i love Yoga with Adrienne) and i only do the floor parts lol.
I am in such better shape, i have more energy, I've lost weight, my posture & balance are better, and i can self-regulate my emotions a thousand times easier. I am so, so much happier with this simple lil 20mins starting my day.
Find a place where you live to have a "sit spot" every day. Ideally outside, but if weather doesn't cooperate, where you can see outside. You don't have to do or think anything, just sit (or stand) and enjoy the view. It doesn't need to be epic, just something you like looking at. (In one of my places, it was the way a particular building interrupted the horizon that I found interesting.) No phone, no computer, no book - just breathe and observe.
It doesn't need to be for long. Start with two to five minutes. I usually do longer when I can.
Yes, it's a type of meditation. But a type that works better for this neurospicy gal than sitting in utter stillness or listening to music.
Currently, it's the picnic table near my bird feeders first thing after waking for my spot. In the morning and evening they are most active, so I sit with a cuppa and enjoy watching them negotiate who eats first while I wake up and caffeinate. It soothes my nervous system in a way notifications and doomscrolling can't, and makes me better able to handle my day.
You guys just walk out of the shower soaking wet? You don't dry yourselves in the shower and then step out?