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The real question is, how do you raise your kids so they don't turn into the next Pete Buttigieg?

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[–] [email protected] 55 points 14 hours ago

imagine getting owned by your kid's fundamental questions about the physical world and society, like damn should have read some books dummy

skill issue

[–] [email protected] 35 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (2 children)

how do you raise your kids so they don't turn into the next Pete Buttigieg?

Can’t speak for Buttigieg, but for a start, don’t be an obnoxious leftist.

I have met so many people in leftist circles over the past 30 years of my life as a leftist that are so arrogant, stubborn and obnoxious that I’m not surprised at all why infighting is so common among the left. Usually people who are obsessed with politics are kinda like that regardless of their political orientation, and they wonder why normal people stopped inviting them to parties. But in their minds, it only vindicated their superiority as someone who have read this or that political theory and can see the world better than anyone else! No one can understand me, you see.

And that’s people I’ve met in real life (used to be deep in organizing in a previous life until I burned out), and terminally online leftists are ten times worse than that lol.

Instead, be a good role model. Don’t even bring up politics at all. Let your kids discover that their cool mom/dad reads Marx. If they’re curious about it and have trust in their parent to give good guidance in matters they don’t understand yet, they’ll ask you about it.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I'm not shy at home about my political beliefs, I just find it much more useful to work with my kid on building a strong relationship than to browbeat her with the difference between labor and socially productive labor if she's taking too long to get out of bed, say.

I burned out on organizing a long time ago too but the same principles that got any org I was involved with any wins seem to work pretty well at home too. Maybe I effortpost about it sometime.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 13 hours ago

I would read that effort post very-smart

[–] [email protected] 7 points 12 hours ago

Guidance is political

[–] [email protected] 25 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I love going a layer deeper over and over until I'm like "because a star exploded and deposited heavy elements into a massive disk, which slowly formed into planets.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 13 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 12 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Gravity and time select for stable patterns in the configuration of matter.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 12 hours ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 17 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

because unstable patterns break apart when met with random and wild phenomena. In a universe full of so much chaos, stable patterns are the only patterns that don't break apart.

why?

because their cohesion is stronger than the forces trying to break them apart

why?

these patterns build upon themselves and create a collection of energy that works together that is more than chaos can muster

why?

because chaotic energy isn't going to be cohesive and collect enough force to beat a stable pattern

why?

because if chaotic energy were so cohesive and structures, it would be a stable pattern and thus, not chaotic. Chaos, is by definition, an unstable pattern

why?

because it is an axiomatic definition of chaos

why?

because if we are to talk about this subject, we need definitions to work with

why?

because the amount of information being passed from me to you would be negligible unless we can use a common language

why?

because without common words, you wouldn't be able to understand anything I'm trying to say

why?

because information needs to be encoded before it can transfer from my brain to yours

why?

because only I am able to see into my internal consciousness

why?

because consciousness, as it is conventionally understood, is a solo venture

why?

because a star exploded and deposited heavy elements into a massive disk, which slowly formed into planets.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 30 minutes ago

This is really lovely thank you.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 12 hours ago

That last, eternal "why?" that's where God goes. Now shut up, luv, i'm trying to watch the telly