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[–] [email protected] 37 points 10 months ago

Goes back to that meme I saw in another community:

Putting 'communist' in your profile will filter out all the people who've been culturally conditioned away from communism but were one conversation away from being set on the right path.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 10 months ago (2 children)

pros: attract communists

cons: attract anti-communist debatebros

[–] [email protected] 12 points 10 months ago (1 children)

The attempts at flirting mixed with "didn't you know Stalin would beat you to death with his Big Spoon for wearing blue jeans" from a cishet white man would take 5 years off my life expectancy.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 10 months ago

I would tell them that the creep messaging that nonsense is why gulags were necessary. That's just me though.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

Cons: pushes away people who were one step away from communism

[–] [email protected] 19 points 10 months ago (1 children)

If I had one I would. If my partner wasn't receptive of my Communist rants we wouldn't be together lol.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 10 months ago

Currently in a relationship but if I weren't and I had a dating profile, I probably wouldn't. Sooner or later into the dating process I would say I'm a very active member of the marxist party here and see where that goes.

Being a communist is not necessarily who I am. I have my life with lots of interests and I do politics as well. But it's not the first thing people notice about me nor is it the first thing I talk about usually.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 10 months ago

I don't have a dating profile bc I'm a minor

[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago (3 children)

I do not, just because I do not use dating apps. They seem far too tiring to navigate through.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Same. Every time I think about trying to date now it just sounds so exhausting because really all I have is apps.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

local social media and community sports

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I am quite rural. Not a lot of those things in my area. It's a "great, if you already have an established relationship" kind of rural.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

there is no antifashist action there?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

lol people continue to use it knowing they have a Fuckboy ELO it's incredible how user hostile they are

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

Last time the apps were bearable to engage with, they were called sites

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago

I don't have one because I have been in a relationship for years now, but I didn't in the past and don't think I would now.

My current partner isn't really an outspoken communist in the way that I tend to describe myself. She holds many of the same values though and tends to agree with me politically, we just...don't discuss politics a lot. She would probably be in the "fellow traveler" category.

I feel like just saying "communist" could presuppose a lot of negative baggage, even if undeserved. A lot of people, for example, would agree with all the tenants of Marxism-Leninism without realising it, but because of social conditioning might be predisposed to negative thoughts about Communism. They are probably the easiest people to engage with on the subject, but might be put off simply by the label.

I had enough controversial things on my old dating profile without needing to make it even harder.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

Uh no I have a very fuckboy profile that is probably immoral in Buddhism or Bandung Maoism. Look I find most ppl are amenable to this stuff in explicit terms without slogans on a level they understnd abt their workplace, markets here, industry, agriculture, insurance, medical, legal, rents and debts, finance weirdos, countries which they know exist and have some kind of a connection to, and how the imperial core instrumentalizes them, contamination, high-exploitation products

I would rather start with any of a billion other things than "go ahead get mad at me because of a word you may not understand". I'd rather start with travel and work backwards to geopolitics and the practicality of taking vacations. That easy. Maybe it will be better when I'm older tbqh

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago

No, but you could add quotes from interesting people to hint at it.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

I put that I quote a lot of Michael Parenti on mine. If you know, you know.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I never had any dating profiles. Actually I despise profit driven dating like tinder....

But as a matter of fact, I only dated communists. EVEN THOUGH I used to be a light red/black pilled asshole....

I dunno why they liked me xD Now I am communist and still only dated my fellow comrades.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

Ok sorry for the late reply.

I met the first two comrades in my chemistry classes. And my current comrade and partner on a pride parade. All of them had in common that they were queer.

That should be the main takeaway I think. If the person you are meeting is non compromising on queer issues, the are leftists. So try to go to queer spaces and simply meet people. And if you cant do this search a local group of activists and go there. It is not bad if you don't talk. Just be there. Eventually you feel comfortable enough to talk. And you may not find a partner, but you will at least find friends and a good social life.

But if you are non queer (I don't know) BEHAVE YOURSELF in queer spaces. Straight Cis people have a track record of..... not behaving in queer spaces, even if they are "allies".