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submitted 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 
 

From the perspective of someone who sometimes has some cash to redistribute on here, I just want to provide some feedback on the semi-recent rule changes in this comm. I don't think all of them are working and I think this comm needs just a little bit more attention to rectify the situation!

First, and I hope least controversial: the sidebar desperately needs to be updated to reflect the actual updated rules.

Second, similarly uncontroversial, the rules should generally actually be enforced. Not enforcing them consistently is worse than not having them in some cases. This ties into several other issues.

Third thing, clarity is needed on whether or not payment details are allowed in the form of not (immediately) personally identifiable usernames. The rule rn says PII/opsec leaks aren't allowed and that payment links aren't, but usernames seems more gray. I thought that usernames weren't allowed at all until I re-read the post, and judging by the variety of different approaches to providing payment details in recent posts, I'm not the only one unsure.

Fourth thing, I think that strongly encouraging people to update their posts when they receive aid is a good thing for helping spread the community's limited aid resources around more where they are needed most. That's good guidance and I wish everyone did it!

Fifth, and to me personally, one of the most important, I am less likely to send money, if I have to effectively dox myself to the poster to do it, and when I have to ask for payment details over DM, that's basically what I'm doing (its trivial to correspond who I am by timing and payment method, even if multiple people do send them money, doubly so over multiple different posts over time). It's one thing for them to know my name or my venmo or whatever, but when they can tie that name to a specific hexbear account I start to go from "keeping the risk in mind" to "I don't think that's a risk I'm willing to take". So while I can understand the urge to not have posters dox themselves, the reverse is also true.

Sixth, as a result of having to DM for payment details (both because of the doxing risk and just the extra steps for both parties), mutual aid posters are currently incentivized to violate or skirt around grey areas of the rules if they want to get more aid. Combined with the lax enforcement/unclear rule, this creates a really sucky situation where people in need are punished monetarily for trying to follow the rules.

Seventh, related to #2/maybe #1 and others, I am of the opinion the comm probably needs another mod or two, it's pretty active and can be a fraught topic when there are disputes, and currently there only seems to be one active mod?

A further revision of the rules to explicitly allow non-doxxing payment methods to be published, followed by an update to the sidebar, would be greatly appreciated tbh. Or something like that. I appreciate all the work done to keep this site safe and functional and such, but these little issues have been nagging at the back of my mind for months now and needed to get out.

Thoughts?

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 
 

Hello users of Hexbear, I am making this post to notify all users of the following:

Going forward comments giving unsolicited advice will be removed, comments that are critical of any mutual aid post or user will be removed, posts containing opsec leaks will be removed, posts containing payment links will be removed.

Posts containing personally identifiable information (PII) will result in a temporary ban from the mutual aid community

Posts or comments that state specific amounts received will be removed, please consider editing the title of a mutual aid post to include the mutual aid request has been received.

We strongly advise you ask people to send you a direct message to obtain information regarding payment.

Consider not make comments about getting large anonymous donations or about what the money gets spent on.

If you want to make a meta comment, provide advice/resources or hold another user accountable, then please make a separate post in this community but do not ping them or specifically/explicitly link their hexbear account to another hexbear account.

Users cannot assume that any post has been vetted and must do their own investigation.

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I find my trip to the food bank delayed again. I rely on a car ride to get it done, they rescheduled. It'll be monday before they're doing service again, and they send me home with a decent amount - this just isn't logistically possible to do on my own.

But sister has to eat if possible, and I dont have shit in the pantry. $25 will square me up till Monday.

i would really apprecaite any help

venmo is @ktkatte, rest of the handles are available via PM.

thanks

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(Full disclosure: you may’ve seen a similar post from @[email protected] - that’s because she is my nesting partner, and this situation is affecting us both ❤️)

Howdy, comrades!

So, our situation got pretty rough, pretty abruptly. Our roommate informed us very belatedly that they do not have their portion of September’s rent. We are doing everything in our power to get her portion (which amounts to ~$450) taken care of, as she is between jobs after just returning home from an internship over seas.

On top of that, our food situation is… not great. Getting rent paid is, of course, first priority, but food is definitely something we are also struggling with 😖

Anywho, any help would be super, super appreciated.

CashApp: maxolotl1312 I also have PayPal, and my partner has Venmo - DM for those, as they contain our full names.

Much love, comrades! I appreciate you all very dearly 🤟

af-heart

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I might have found another online gig work thing. Applying for tech jobs has been leading nowhere, but hopefully I can get back on my feet dumping a lot of hours into this new thing. Waiting for onboarding stuff now.

Until then, could use 20 bucks for stuff like toilet paper, paper towels, and other little things like that I'm running low on.

Got paypal, venmo, zelle, hit me up if you need them. Thanks! cuddle

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(cat pics courtesy of our preganaté found/adopted daughter and bf)

Bf needs pants, new shoes, a button up

The pregernant one needs money for an id and just some bare minimum cosmetics like nail polish and probably some money to Lyft or Uber

I need cat litter, a scooper, and more money for food to help get us to the 15th since bfs hasn't had their stamps hit yet even though he has a card. And being able to pay for something like Mint Mobile so our communication isn't restricted to just wifi, this'll give my old friend I reached out to a private line with which to speak to me with if me and my bf have a falling out for any reason as well. Also if anyone knows how to train a cat to use the toilet, that would also be greatly appreciated.

So I'm asking for $250 and that may cover everything.

Cash app : $HexBeara

PayPal : @aidanwhite228

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submitted 20 hours ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 
 

I bought my money order for rent again, so that's set aside, but now I need more food. I know I'm back here every week and I'm trying to get out of this cycle. Because of your help and the help of some in-person friends, I've finally been eating properly this last week or so. I'm getting lots of protein and I don't feel so weak and tired all the time, even though I worked eight days straight while not sleeping well. So the help I have been getting has been a life saver, without question.

I'll be on my feet soon, I think. I'm trying, comrades.

Anything helps, thank you all!

PayPal: sgriffith0891 at gmail dot com CashApp: $sgriffith0891

o7

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Sorry again, I hate asking for help so much but we’re in an extremely dire position right now all things considered. Help is next to nonexistent and other avenues have proven fruitless.

I have an appointment with my orthopedic surgeon tomorrow and with pain management today, I had surgery a few years ago but was unable to do much follow up afterwards due to the chaos in my life and homelessness and have been dealing with a chronic infection in my ankle, which is why I can’t work as I can’t be on my feet much at all. I finally have been able to see a doctor about fixing this, and am going to need surgery again within a month or two.

All that’s to say I do not have a way to and from my appointments or money for any co-pays they might incur. Altogether between today and tomorrow it will cost me at least $80 for the transportation, and another $20 at least in co-pays if anyone can help me with this or else I will have to reschedule and will incur a fee for todays appointment because of rescheduling so close to the appointment :/

thank you guys, youve been the only thing keeping us fed and off the street the past couple weeks ❤️ can dm for payment info or see previous posts!

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Please help.

CashApp/Venmo are allthetimesivedied

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Basically, our roommate is stuck in between jobs and will soon be busy again with school. She has like $60 to her name right now, and while she might be able to doordash for some of the rent, she is likely going to come short. My partner and I already spend our entire months worth of wages to live here so we could do with a bit of help.

DM for venmo. My nesting partner also has paypal and cashapp if those work better.

Ty all!

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Please if you're able to send me a few bucks for a new phone I would very much so appreciate it.my cash tag is $KodyMartinGerba. Thank you

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I just need groceries. I bought the money order for rent, and now I'm broke. $40 for food will probably do it. I have some pork chops still, about two day's worth.

CashApp: $sgriffith0892a PayPal: sgriffith at gmail

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Last week i came to yall because I was in danger of losing my housing. Thanks to you beautiful, beautiful folks a-little-trolling I avoided that situation. However I'm still not out of the woods yet. My job I was gonna start just went no contact after I signed all their onboarding forms and everything...so I need your help. Luckily I don't need neeeearly as much as i did last time...I'd say about $350 considering my truck is about to be disabled and I'm out of meds. Help if you can, share if you can't.

paypal: [email protected] cashapp: $steelsorcerer

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If anyone is able to help me out with any small amount of money for some food today, I would very much so appreciate it. I'm homeless and struggling. My cash tag is $KodyMartinGerba. Thank you and God bless.

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Things are about to change for me, but better days are still weeks away. I'm plumb ass out of food right now. If anybody can spare a few bucks, right now that's gonna go to shoring up my pantry. I can't even get to the food bank right now, so things are fairly dire here.

If you can help it's ofc very welcome and appreciated.

Venmo is @KTKatte, other handles are a PM away.

Thanks yall

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So... A couple of days ago I woke up to my phone stolen. I guess that's just one of the many joys of being homeless. If anyone is able to help me out with a few bucks for a new phone I would really appreciate it.my cash app cash tag is $KodyMartinGerba. Thank you.

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cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/3260326

Only $20/$1000 has been reached to ensure stable housing and coverage of various items or procedures that may be needed. I'm not trying to be greedy or ungrateful, but did ask for more than enough to ensure that I wouldn't have to ask for help again, at least not here. At the very least need to get 5 additional days to make sure our plasma donations can cover us consistently afterwards, and that'll cost around $400. So looking to get at least $380 more if that is at all possible. Since he's now employed we can start to get our feet under ourselves, and I'll follow suit, more than likely either returning to Publix to work or working as a server somewhere. I hope my tone has shifted in how I post. If I've offended any hexbearians in past posts or comments, I do apologize. I'm done being shit ass, and I'm really trying to turn things around and just be better instead of being hopelessly depressed, jaded, and ready to fling shit at anyone or anything. If I've ever gave a hostile impression to my fellow hexchanners, again I apologize and resolve to do better, and it doesn't stop here or online. If anything, when it comes down to it, I'll figure it out. I am running out of time for checkout though. - the user formerly known as Ann Teefa

Cashapp - $HexBeara

Need about $1000 to ensure I can secure the extended stay long enough to find employment and or a better living situation along with a slew of other expenses . I suck at asking for help and this IS last minute. But I do have EBT coming in today along with my partner who applied as well (who has been making strides in being less shit ass as well as of late) . I'm going to be speaking with a longtime friend who I burnt a bridge with due to a disagreement and sucking up my pride so that I can get not only myself help but someone (23) who we happened to meet at the pool who's pregnant, who IMO, is giving off vibes as I did when I was 18, just completely lost and unsure of what do to for their next step and how to go about it, and I'm very unsure of how to go about it and help besides trying to help her reapply for ebt , wic, etc. We've helped by giving groceries that we've had on hand that may or may not have had a hand in giving me chest pains after I smoked about 2 nights ago from all the salt and fat (my partner and the shit ass dealer didn't help by telling me 'its just a panic attack', like no no, I'm very calmly stating that it feels like the consequences of my actions and that it'd just be my luck to croak as I finally put in the effort. Least I would've been laughing at the time of death or cardiac arrest.). Just things like a pack of hotdogs, half a box of pop tarts, a Pyrex of oats, a Pyrex of rice, Mac n cheese, a stick of butter, some hot chocolate from the lobby from the complimentary breakfast along with a chocolate muffin I hadn't eaten. To add to that I was emotionally constipated until I adopted a skittish cat that I couldn't stop crying over the unfairness of his predicament, how it represents a microcosm of society and my time within it (yada yada, I could wax poetic of how shit things are for eons, and this isn't the first time I've recognized extraneous circumstances being so dire and ass, but it is the first time in about 4 years I've had to be responsible for another life and have that reminder close by at almost all times ) and he already come out of his shell after what is now his 3rd day with us. As of my writing, my partner just secured a job here as well but we're unsure of whether or not that'll secure us board (starts next Monday). I also haven't gotten my teeth done yet because I've been waiting on my blue card and additionally can't afford the pittance that the most affordable plans cost. I really hate asking for help because eventually it's always used as a cudgel and to assassinate my character and leaves me more jaded then the time before I've asked. But I'm currently in a situation where I really REALLY NEED it to make a come up.

Also was clocked by the pigs for not having bike lights ( and me being me, along with at that point, being absolutely exhausted from biking, donating plasma, missing the bus, getting on the wrong bus) and resisting w/o violence by not stopping immediately (until I was specifically identified and told to stop I might add, they whoop whooped a couple times but I was ready to suicide by cop if he was gonna abuse his power since he already was stopping me simply because I can't afford lights and couldn't access what headlights or tail lights I had at my previous place since my cool roommate wasn't home. If someone brings up how it's about my safety, they could give a fuck, they didn't utter a breath about not having working brakes.) Anyways, gotta be a good noodle for 6 months, and gotta stay until then. After though I'm moving back to Massachusetts to become a resident and take their free schooling and just have a piece of paper that says I know things. More than likely also doing a technical college at some point.

Btw the adorable little guys name is Artorias and he's now my (unofficial) emotional support animal, and I do plan on getting him registered as such.

Never has the fire in my heart for revolution burned so hot and brightly and I severely need the help that I've lacked and have avoided asking for. Please spare what you can, but we truly need to hit the goal (honestly probably more but it'll do plenty) to get everything situated.

Cashapp is $HexBeara

Update #1: $20 so far. $980 to go. The $20 is going towards the bike more than likely. Big thanks to the comrades that have already spotted us $10 a piece.

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Since August 7, I've been working with this company to get started. They hired me, but I haven't been able to start yet because I'm awaiting some documentation that I need before I can even begin work.

I got a call from this job today asking me if I have a driver's license. I do not currently have a driver's license, so they asked me if I would be interested in getting one if I needed to do so for the position. I told them that I would not be able to.

This is the first time that the concern of me needing a driver's license for this job has come up in any capacity. She just called me and told me that it is a requirement, but she said that she wasn't expecting this to be an issue because "99% of people have a driver's license," but this was, up until this point, never informed to me about this position.

That means for 12 days, I have been going through hassles to start this job for absolutely nothing. I have to pay bills by September 1, and I haven't been able to get far. I was able to get a trans Florida-specific group to post for me on social media regarding mutual aid, but so far I have gotten nothing.

Now that I know that I don't have this job, my stress shot up even more.

I have to cover $900 by September 1, and I just don't know if I will be able to.

I still have the freelance position at the very least, but I'm not even sure if that is a good source of full-time income, and I need the documentation I'm awaiting to start that job too. That documentation will arrive sometime this week.

I have been going through enough pain. I was going through an intense mental breakdown over other things last night, and now what just happened today stung me so much that my head is in a "Should life even be carried on?" spot right now.

Anything will help. I have food and everything, so I'm not concerned about any expenses besides just hitting that $900 goal as soon as I possibly can.

As far as I'm concerned, I'm about to be a homeless, jobless black trans person in Florida, and that means that I feel like I'm on the verge of death. My stress is at a peak right now.

Update: 295.5 / 900

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Because motherfuckers keep pocketing that shit and it is pissing me off.

$allthetimesivedied

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I've got some kind of fucked up throat thing going on. I feel kinda bleh, but mostly normal except my throat fucking Hurts and I can't account for anything other than the fact that covid rates are up here and despite wearing fitted n95s in public, i have to use public transit and generally face elevated risk.

but i can't even afford covid tests and my insurance is disrupted. If im positive i'm gonna have to pull shennanigans to get paxlovid, but i'll cross that bridge when i have to

i need to do the most due dilligence i can afford here - which is unfortunately just otc testing

if you can help, venmo is @ktkatte with other handles available on request via pm

thanks

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can dm for payment links or look at previous posts, extremely sorry :(

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Skip to the end if you don't care about the update:

Long story long with a lot of extra detail since the ordeal is basically over now:

I was illegally detained and searched by security while working at a festival. The security were blatantly corrupt, having broken into our camp and stolen things multiple times in the first two nights alone. Security claimed I had substances and a burner but the police dropped the entire investigation for multiple reasons (basically they had nothing to go off of but the word of security who had also stolen everything my partner and I brought to the festival - roughly £600 of camping gear and clothes. At the time I felt utterly powerless and like my life had ended in the whim of some undertrained removed.

The funny thing is I never really had any of the stuff security said I did - at most you could say I confiscated it from some kid who was shitting himself because I caught him with it. I was going to try to turn it in without getting them into trouble but the moment they saw me with a bag and a phone, possibly because I'm brown, they decided that I must be a dealer.

But I was incredibly lucky with the sergeant, she was genuinely quite understanding, seemed to believe me, also had ADHD which may have helped as well as me being in a long term relationship with an okay job. The duty solicitor did an excellent job as well although she was unbelievably busy so contact was few and far between. I got away essentially scot free ( as I should have, I genuinely didn't do anything wrong lol)

Thanks to the help of you generous lot and the most based comrade I know IRL, I was able to just about cover rent while I was waiting for a new job to start.

Unfortunately the job offer was retracted, thanks to a misleading reference given out by the one of the most evil banks in the UK (it rhymes with Sharklays - put a .co.uk on the end of that to find out more). It was hell to work there (I was frontline customer service, not doing evil investments don't worry), the employee turnover was insane - we were short staffed by about 750 in our department alone. So we were doing over twice as much work as we were supposed to - oh but the do-nothing, clueless-about-the-role, check-emails-and-go-to-pointless-meetings-micromanagers were "really grateful" for all the work (just not in anyway that paid us for doing two people's work). And to top it off the CEO was an Epstein client.

So yeah after working there for a year, being a top performer, experiencing intense mania followed by a massive breakdown due to the stress and then getting a disciplinary investigation for "call avoidance" (my system had been set up incorrectly from day one and there was calls I literally could not take because of this), I left for my not-quite-dream but definitely interesting and chill office job for an actual half decent company. Only for shitty Barclays to lie in the reference and say that I left mid disciplinary, which despite emails showing I didn't do and their own policy saying it shouldn't have been on my record, I can't take them to court without spending a load of money. But that will have to come another time because I've still got bigger fish to fry right now.

I'm still asking for money though, don't you worry! I just need a little bit of help paying off the debts I accrued while unable to work. Rent is fine and basically covered I'm very behind on bills and debt payments so bailiffs are looking to take possessions if I don't pay soon, which would probably be my pc which I need for work stuff.

Every little helps if you can and it's seriously much appreciated. One day once my feet are fully back under me (hopefully soon, I'm actually really loving this new job) I will be able to pay people back and/or pay it forward here.

My cashapp (UK only I believe: £tongzhi PayPal. Me/temphelp Any other methods on m

I will likely repost this in a month or two if that's within the rules

Tl;dr life still a bit fucked, could I borrow some money please mum/dad/glucose guardian??

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Been off the site mostly for a bit cuz I've been feeling bad :(

I've been living with my family again since my life fell apart and they eat even worse than me. I have things to eat but I want to eat fresh food, stuff that you couldn't buy at a hardware store. Tired of eating absolute slop cuz there's nothing else

I just confirmed that this place has a lead water service line and I'm afraid to drink the water. I knew it probably had one before and I grew up here so the damage is probably already done but yeh

I am such a ball of anxiety I can't stop thinking about the lead water or the peeling paint here or dust from when my family was doing work on this ancient house in the most negligent way possible some months ago

I miss having a place to live where the people I live with just barely tolerate me and don't go on rants about immigrants and crime waves and demonrats and where I don't have to worry about being poisoned slowly just by existing

Anyway, whining over, most of amerikkka should be bulldozed and the debris buried in a big pile which is designated a toxic waste zone 9/11, everything is full of toxic chemicals and heavy metals unless you have money and can afford the good things and it's driving me insane

It's not urgent but if you wanna help I would really appreciate it

Links for money-sending that do not identify me (I hope this means it can stay up):

https://ko-fi.com/paxctl (I think this one has anonymous money-sending capability without needing an account)

Cash app: $paxxap

Thank you for reading, sorry for asking, the online work I was doing has dried up for now :(

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cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/3255419

Hey folks, I'm asking on behalf of a trans comrade that is new to transition and really wants to find some local friends to talk to and possibly hang out with in the future. This comrade is having a bit of a hard time getting started and I think this would help a lot.

If you think this might be in your alley or you know anyone, please DM me on matrix @small-k:matrix.org. You can do so with a new account but I will ask which account on hexbear you are, dw I will forget it almost immediately and you can delete that info after. I'm just asking for security/no trolls reasons.

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Hello again! Thank you everyone that helped us get this month paid for, sadly it looks like we might have to deal with this through to November now which really sucks, but for now we arent desparately chasing down rent for the night fearing we’ll end up on the street any given day.

This post is just for some help with food and general hygiene products along with paying for some of my wife and I’s prescriptions that have been ready for a while but we havent been able to pick up that are pretty important for our health and cause really shitty withdrawal symptons without them. It would cost us altogether, $120 to pick up every one of them. However, we can make due with just getting the most important ones which we’d only need about $70 for.

Any help towards food and the hygiene products mentioned (deodorant, shampoo, toothpaste, etc) would also help a lot as we’re extremely low on both since our food stamps were cut :/

I hate to ask for help again, but due to our situation which I detailed a little bit in my previous posts, we don’t have many options or places/people to go to for help at the moment :(

DM for payment links (i think its technically against the rules to post them here?) or for questions etc!

this community is amazing and we cant tell you all how much youve already helped us, having the stress of worrying about if we’ll end up on the street every night lifted for the next few weeks/last week or two has felt incredible and we owe it all to the generosity of our fellow comrades here.

thank you, and solidarity forever!

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