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submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

As it stands now, this community serves mostly as a way to get money. That isn't a bad thing, but cash is not a 1-size-fits-all solution to every problem. Taking care of a persons needs is always priority #1, but at times, said person is unfit to handle money in a way that reliably alleviates those needs. Traditional, local, mutual-aid networks can usually address this in the form of community pot lucks, clothing exchange, etc. Here we are more or less limited to advice and more money.

Making a rule about unsolicited advice and being critical of users, limits us to just money as a tool to solve problems. Sometimes people need a tough conversation to grow as a person, sometimes people need to be reminded of the situation they are in. Yes, the capitalist system is oppressive. Yes, there are systemic issues that prevent us all from succeeding. That doesn't mean there is no situation where decision making is a factor. Sometimes, you do actually need help making better choices. This isn't to shame people for making bad decisions, sometimes there are psychiatric reasons, sometimes they genuinely don't know any better, but you still should speak up so they can potentially correct the problem and learn.

This rule effectively creates a hug-box where we all pretend that personal responsibility doesn't exist, that there is simply nothing to be done. It's incredibly infantile, it's a cope, and the people in this community deserve better than that.

EDIT: I feel I may have had a change of heart after reading the comments left by @EelBolshevikism If you are looking for a somewhat comprehensive response, those comments are likely a good starting point.

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[-] [email protected] 17 points 3 weeks ago

Does "rachel" ring a bell at all? She was poor, recently homeless, and a drug addict.

Funny you should ask. Those of us who have given to the venmo of the person this discussion is about, know that the first-name she gave on venmo (which I believe is not her real name, given a conversation about payment-app opsec she had shortly after joining this site) is Rachel.

I will note, however, that I recall the original Rachel being banned for violations of rules relating to trans issues (I seem to recall the term "truscum"), not run off of the site for making bad decisions. Not trying to argue about the broader point, just mentioning my recollection of those events.

[-] [email protected] 14 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Wati, what the fuck, it's the same fucking person? The same one who bragged about scamming people the first time? Goddamn, we're a bunch of fucking marks here

[-] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago

I somehow missed the scamming allegations, but yeah she posted a lot of personal details that matched up with the old storyofrachel on cth. I've just been assuming it was the same person but also I missed all this drama.

[-] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago

Also her display name on her payment info

[-] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago

I think she was banned multiple times. I wouldn't be surprised if she got shit on, left, then returned, then got banned for being brain wormed...

this post was submitted on 22 Jun 2024
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