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I'm too stressed out to function and pissed at the world. What's the best bbq sauce to put on chicken legs? (lemmy.ml)

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I'm at a shitty point in my life where I'm just close enough to rock bottom to smell it but far enough that I still have something to lose.

One thing I still have control over is what I'm going to have for lunch. I decided on chicken legs. I'm going to smoke them with Applewood and score the legs so they can hold bbq sauce. I'm going to the store soon but don't have a favorite sauce, and I'm looking for recommendations. What bbq sauce is best to cook onto the chicken legs?

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[–] [email protected] 40 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

Not sure if anyone cares to know but i decided to go with stubbs bbq sauce. First i put on a dry rub of Pappys dry rub and cooked to 160 internal. Then i followed up with stubbs bbq sauce and finished at 170 degrees internal.

I didn't get down with the apple jim beam so i decided to do shots of Makers Mark cask bourbon. Might have a white claw and long Island iced tea later. Catch me on my plummet to rock bottom over on !cocktails.lemmyworld or occasionally! Cocktail.MidwestSocial

Unfortunately I think I might just have to go back to therapy because even bbqing doesn't cheer me up anymore.

Edit: the chicken has clashing flavors only fixed by getting blind drunk. Don't mix Pappys dry rub and stubbs bbq suace.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You may think no one cares but you'd be surprised how many people are happy about this update.

Also never really heard of stubbs before 0_0

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

As far as i can tell its just a generic sweet bbq sauce.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Well hope it was still really good!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

Stubbs is the shiiiiit, good choice. Therapy is also a good choice, everybody should go. It always helps, even if you don't think you need it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Came here to say to go with Stubb's, but the jalapeno one. It's SOOO good!! Dude. So good...

Also, therapy is amazing, and you should totally return. It's a step to you getting better. Feeling this way sucks balls, but the world isn't as bad as it seems, and sometimes, it takes a therapist to help you see that. If doing the things you love doesn't cheer you up, even a bit, you may benefit from a psychiatrist that can prescribe an antidepressant and work with you on your recovery. Saved my best friend's life. Like everything, there are bad ones and good ones and great ones (psychiatrists and antidepressants), but keep fighting so you can find one that will help you. Good luck, my dude. Hang in there, and know that an internet stranger is rooting hard for you!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Thanks homie. I actually quit therapy the last time because my issues were caused by me being broke, alone, and working long hours. My therapist said that my money would be better put towards my bills than therapy. That no amount of coping skills would make me not poor and alone.

Well I got a better job, made friends, and and I'm lightyears ahead of where I used to be, but still i find myself thinking about ending it. Personally I think my past depression kinda fried my brain and I'm permanently broken and probably need meds to be halfass happy.

I don't have enough enough money to move into my own place, and even though that's my goal, that's what I'd define as success, I'm not sure that'd make me happy. I know myself and I know if i lived by myself I'd be lonely and probably overdependant on my work friends. Also I've been trying to date but only halfass sending likes on the apps and just a little bit of flirting with my coworkers. In fact there's this one coworker I have that's i am just illogically attracted to. Only problem is she's out of my league in looks, economical standing, has degrees and she's also older. She's so different from me though, in almost every way. I thought i leaned right politically but jeez she really showed me what it's like to be conservative in Asia.

Idk i think that's just the bourbon talking though. I think about her more than i should, that's for sure. I'd give her everything if she asked even though I know it'd be wrong.

Anyway I'm going to try to sign up for BetterHelp. Honestly I'll have to lie because they reject certain people but i just can't afford anything else rn.

I appreciate you friend. Hope to see you around lemmy soon on a more happy post.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

One thing I learned, is that, most of the time, someone is only out of your league if you believe they are. I don't know you (beyond our little conversation here) or her (at all), but it sounds like you have a lot to offer. And, no, not giving her everything, but that part shows me that you're emotionally available, or, at the very least, willing to be. Although, I don't know if I would recommend dating or pursuing a coworker, as it can lead to some very unpleasant situations.

Another thing I've learned, happiness and success are not actually linked to one another. I know several well-off to bumtasticlly rich people who, I think, everyone would categorize as super successful, and they are some of the most unhappy people. I also know rich people who are happy, and poor people who are happy, and poor people who are unhappy. My point is that money and success won't make you happy.

Money makes life easier sometimes, but good friends (emphasis on the good), I think, add more happiness than a ton of money.

I think the BetterHelp thing is a wonderful place to start, even if you have to bend the truth a bit to get in. You deserve happiness.

Believe in yourself, and don't be afraid to be happy--that's one of the hardest things to do after a stint (no matter how long or short) of depression. Tell yourself every single day that you deserve to be happy and you are going to be happy today. Literally, write it on a stickynote on the mirror "I deserve to be happy, and I will be happy today" and read it out loud (even as a whisper) every morning. Maybe add a phone reminder to remind you of this fact throughout the day.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I feel like I just don't know how to impress her. Part of me says I shouldn't have to try so hard that I'm not acting like myself, and the other part of me says that I need to be an exceptional person to stand out among the other men she might meet.

I think you're right about money not equaling happiness. I never wanted to be a millionaire, i just want enough to entertain my hobbies occasionally.

As far as it being a bad idea to date a coworker- i know it's not great but I don't think she's going to work at my job for much longer. Still I'm aware the consequences of dating a coworker is immediate site reassignment and likely a pay cut. Love isn't free though.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Part of me says I shouldn’t have to try so hard that I’m not acting like myself, and the other part of me says that I need to be an exceptional person to stand out among the other men she might meet.

Most women dont want to be impressed and the ones that do arent worth it. What many that are worth the time want is just to be treated like a person, respected for what they can do and bring to the table and what their strengths are. Just be yourself, and honest (well maybe not too honest) but professional. If it happens it happens, dont force it. But personally, she likely has boundaries with with work. Dudes can often have flings with co-workers but if a woman does it, its becomes a stigma and can affect their career in a big way. Its like the saying "you fuck one goat and you are a goat fucker for life". So you gotta respect that and dont shit where you eat and if you do, never tell a goddam soul but she would need to make the first pass in my book.

I think you’re right about money not equaling happiness. I never wanted to be a millionaire, i just want enough to entertain my hobbies occasionally.

From experience. Hes right. See my other comment.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'd skip the sauce. Legs are, to me, too fatty. They do much better with a. Rub and keeps the skin nice and tasty.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I scored the legs down to the bone hoping to get some crispy corners and a place to hold some sauce. It had mixed results. I was 6 drinks in by the time the chicken was ready so I wasn't able to really appreciate my own culinary genius.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Great choice. I was going to recommend Sweet Baby Ray’s, but Stubbs is pretty similar.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Kikkoman makes a teriyaki sauce with garlic and green onions and it is my new favorite sauce after Aldi's parmesan garlic. If you're dead set on bbq, you can't go wrong with a sweet Baby Ray sauce.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Are you me?

The green onion teriyaki sauce is fantastic. I mix it into ground turkey and bbq them.

On the sauce tip we’ve gravitated to SBR. It’s dark and smokey like bulls eye but sweeter.

For chicken I really like grill mates sweet and smokey rub

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Aw man, i wish i would've seen this earlier, I'm not happy with how the chicken came out. I think Teriyaki might've been the way to go. Something sweet when I'm feeling bitter would've been good

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I always end up going back to Sweet Baby Ray's. Every once in awhile I'll try something fancier but I always end up going back.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

SBR seems to be a very good all around sauce universally available. A lot of the others mentioned seems to be a specialty or regional sauce.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Heres my trick. I use a braising brush and brush it on the chicken (or ribs, or turkey) BEFORE i cook it.

The brown sugar one especially. Ill also add a little of my own seasoning if i want.

Just a thin coat makes a glaze. Its all you need. Cook and eat.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I'm wheezing at the amount of existential dread in your question about BBQ sauces. Sorry man, life may be shitty right now but at least you've got a good sense of humor.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Im drowning and bbq sauce is my life raft

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What a coincidence, today I stumbled upon just the right book for situations like this.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I think tomorrow might be the fried noodles one. I already have a good spicy sweet and sour sauce, and I'll pair it with some fried chicken thighs if I'm not too drunk to drive to the store tomorrow.

Thanks friend, i think this is a good cookbook. I appreciate it

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

You said you feel down? Then toss the BBQ sauce, use whiskey. Just whiskey. Toss the chicken as well, tastes like crap with whiskey.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

But don't forget to smoke the whiskey with the apple wood first.

We do have some culture here

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Too much work, I just bought some smoked bourbon

Anyone want a pour of some Balconies Brimstone?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Funny story i picked up a bottle of jim beam apple and am smoking my chicken with Applewood. Now ive got the rest of the bottle to keep me company until the end of the day.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's less about what sauce you pick and more about making sure to finish them on the grill on high heat so that sauce caramelizes and chars. That's where the flavor lives.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Maybe thats where i went wrong. Next time I'll crank up the heat.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sweet Baby Ray’s. Can’t ever go wrong with Sweet Baby Ray’s.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

SBR’s hasn’t been the same since they swapped out the cane sugar for HFCS.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Something spicy. You need those endorphins. You can channel your anger into eating the pain food.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Maull's classic, a St. Louis BBQ tradition.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Goes great on alligator doesn't it?

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[–] kale 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Brine them in Vicker's sauce for 24 hours, place in a bowl or ziplock bag and toss in a heavy dark sauce like Stubb's, Corky's, or Jack Daniels. Smoke and caramelize the bbq sauce. Then, optionally, give a thin coat of BBQ sauce again for messy wings.

Stubb's original is my favorite.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Frank's Hot Sauce is used in a lot of places in our area as their sauce, Admittedly though, Seattle isn't really known for their BBQ, but I find it good.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Seattle....wow

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[–] Barky 2 points 1 year ago

Stubb's is #1 forever in my book

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My favorite bbq sauce is this one: https://www.joeskc.com/collections/sauces-and-rubs/products/joes-bbq-sauce

It won't get there in time but man, what a treat. Think of it for next time! I hope things start to look up for you soon, enjoy your bbq! I'll also be smoking some chicken today, I'm going to be cooking this for the first time so I hope it tastes good: https://howtobbqright.com/2020/02/13/voodoo-wings/

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Looks great friend. I definitely want to step up my bbq game and i love spicy food. Today i just just went with simple and easy

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I really like Stubbs Sweet Heat ("Ladies and Gentlemen I'm a Cook")

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Stubbs is decent sauce. Haven’t tried this one, but it’s likely solid.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The blood of your enemies.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

With some brown sugar and spices of course

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

KC Masterpiece

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Reggae Reggae Sauce. Really good barbecue jerk chicken sauce.

It's amazing how Levi Roots got rejected on Dragon's Den and then launched the sauce brand himself to big success.

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