Brought earplugs to the Slayer/Slipknot/Mastodon/MachineHead concert…
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haha only now am I learning to maybe throw some earpugls in every once in a while
That concert was so brutal in terms of sound level. I was in the pit and people were using cigarette filters as earplugs. That’s how loud it was. I’m pretty sure that’s why I have mild tinnitus now.
cigarette filters for earplugs is wild
That was all we had.
I don't understand how people can go to music shows without ear plugs. I don't even attend metal music, which seem to crank it up to the point of losing sound quality, just for the sake of "bad assery" I guess.
I feel bad for kids being brought to concerts without them, too.
Bought Apple and Microsoft stock.
And google
There was no Google when I was 18. Jesus if I had somehow been able to buy Microsoft and Apple ... But at the time Apple wasn't looking too good.
Transitioned
Same, I waited till I was 27, I'm happy I'm finally there, but it woulda been nice to start 10 years earlier, woulda been a lot better for me mentally especially.
Said no to my parents more.
Less fucking about, more fucking
(1) work out, (2) ditch an extremely toxic relationship without ever looking back, (3) have more fun, (4) buy aapl.
Stuff that would theoretically have been possible, in no particular order:
- develop better study & time management skills so college doesn’t kick my ass nearly so badly
- walk on to the college’s cross country team. After all, it was a D3 school, they’ll take just about anyone. Would’ve been a great way to avoid putting on 60 pounds in school.
- spend more time taking advantage of the free therapy sessions in the student health center and maybe God forbid not fall as far into the pit of depression
Warn my boyfriend he had a brain tumor while still possible to treat
Gave a shit about school. Instead I was way too worried about finding that one girl for me. Now I’m dumb, poor, and have the most wonderful wife in the world… after a few false starts.
Bought Bitcoin or have tried to buy a shoebox of a house.
But I listened to all the "sensible" people and went for a graduate level program instead like an idiot, and then couldn't do anything with it for a litany of reasons. Just one family emergency or health problem after another.
The worst of all maybe could have been avoided if I hadn't been off at school in the first place. I don't regret college, but my education should have stopped there. I was finally an adult, but I still let everyone else dictate my life, right from the getgo.
Biggest regret of my life, right out of the gate.
But I listened to all the “sensible” people and went for a graduate level program instead like an idiot
Oof, yeah similar situation though for me it was more around 20-21. Went to college for about 2-3 years, wasn't doing too great with the required calculus classes & sort of dropped out. The upside was during that same time I landed a full time job in IT & was getting paid plenty, had a 401k, all that stuff.
But the "sensible" people around me (aka the boomer parents/uncles/etc. with their lifetime pensions) kept telling me to stop working & go back to school. That got into my head & eventually I quit my well paid job, burned another 2-3 years on school before realizing that just wasn't going to work out for me. Then cashed out my 401k to pay off those school loans.. those same "sensible" people didn't tell me anything about retirement savings & I was too young & dumb to understand that stuff back then.
Nowadays I'm okay & don't have any debt. But all that essentially meant I started over with my career later in life & am still trying to catch up with retirement savings.
Wish I had gotten diagnosed with adhd. Earlier would have been better, but really it was college and early 20s where it hurt me the most (ie the period of time where I no longer had my parents managing my calendar, and before my wife and I started divvying up personal and household tasks based on our strengths)
Hit the gym brother. Instead of starting my work out journey now in my 30s.
I was fortunate enough to have had a fast metabolism through out my 20s but starting a workout habit earlier would've helped maintain it better.
I wish I would have taken relationships less seriously. I started dating people when I was young because I thought it was what everyone was doing but I should have been having fun and goofing around.
Investing in Bitcoin, I suppose, is the other thing. I nearly did it when people were paying multiple Bitcoins for a pizza for the novelty of it but stopped because I couldn't figure it out at the time.
Kept in touch with friends.
Got back on ADHD meds that my parents took me off as a 10yo as they didn't like the side effects.
Exercised.
Study, get the certification I ended up getting eventually (that i was repeatedly recommended to do but was too perpetually exhausted to study for), and breaking into IT as a career sooner.
Not waste years 18-22 in a shitty grocery store/fast food job. To this day I can't stand to look at a rotisserie chicken cooker.
Skipped years of college that didn’t do me any good and just moved out instead of living with my family for another 4 years.
Worry less about grades and academic performance, met my actual therapist back then so I could understand more about myself through exploration of my own self.
Hug my dad more if I knew he would be gone in a few years. Miss him everyday.
Had more sex and opposed my parents making me do so much religious junk with my time.
I wish I would have came out of the closet immediately instead of being in two marriages that really sucked because I was confused about what I wanted and I didn’t want to ostracize myself from my family and peers.
Fuck, that felt good to get out
My drivers license. Now I'm 19 and still need to do it.
I'm 24 and I still don't have a driver's licence. I mean, I don't have a job to begin with, let alone a car.
I'm going to finish school soon and I want to drive a car when I have a job and can afford it. I've used public transportation for the past 3 years and will probably still use it in the future when it's not too inconvenient but a 30 min drive to work taking 1 hour instead, where I spend 30 minutes just waiting, sucks. This weekend I drove to a friend. It would have taken 30 minutes by car but it took me 2 hours with public transport because I had to wait a total of 1 hour and 15 minutes. The issue isn't public transportation itself but that the government was trying to save as much money as possible and it is getting better with the new government but there is still so much to do and it will take time.
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Get tested and subsequently treated for ADHD.
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Dump the ex I was dating around that time instead of letting her take up two years of my life that I wont get back.
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Pay more attention to the people that actually put effort into their friendship/relationship with me and drop the ones that didn't.
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Work out more and eat better.
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Socialize as much as I could while living in the dorms.
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Either join or create study groups.
Stop trying so hard to get laid. I could have had better relationships if I'd just stopped making that my goal.
But those teenage boy hormones hit hard and that's literally all I could think about back then.
Noticed how many people were interested in me. Could have had a lot more connections had I nurtured them when I had the chance. Now that i'm a grown ass man and it's really kicking me in the ass just how hard it is to even meet people, nonetheless make a connection.
The only phone number I ended up getting was my manager (when I resigned) I didn't even realize they liked me until years later and I'm not even entirely sure that the number is still theirs and even if it were they've long ago moved and it wouldn't even be a good idea anyway.
Moral of the story if anyone gives you the time of day do the bare minimum of getting a contact so that you can catch up with them later.
Tried dancing with that girl at the prom who actually wanted to dance with me. Yeah the music was loud, but I should have tried anyway. (Even not knowing how.)
Eventually I learned better how to talk/interact with women and even married a great one, but I do wonder how my life would be different if I had earlier what little skill I have now.
Looked inward and truly considered how my words and actions affected others
I (emotionally) hurt someone I cared about deeply, and it has taken years of work and therapy to begin to move past it
Not wasted all the time and actually studied. I am pretty good even at procrastinating starting things I like doing.
Also, when I was 17 one of the better colleges had a yearly competition in networking (specifically with Cisco devices) where people who scored above 56% would get some larger amount of bonus points at that college. Unfortunately, the number of places was limited, so I didn't want to take anyone's opportunity away by signing up, as I wasn't 100% sure I could do it.
In the end, 14 people who signed up didn't even show up. Fuck that!
Perhaps I could try when it will be held next year. Yeah, future tense. I am still 17. But it's still the same morale problem. Limited number of opportunities. Not everyone can get the chance, perhaps because of me.
I don't know what to do.
I am not even sure I regret the choice I made. On one hand, I lost an opportunity myself. On the other hand, it feels like I made a right, albeit dumb decision.
So yeah, back to the question. I will regret fucking up my life. I know I'll do just that.
I wish I had a solid social network and gone straight to university. Your social network is a vital part of life. I was in an advanced K-12 primary school and wish I had been born to intelligent atheists who valued intelligence. I had teachers that all but wanted to fight my parents about how they neglected my potential, but I had no context to really understand what all that meant.
I wish I had dropped out of college as I planned to.
Gotten on antidepressants immediately after high school. I would have had my shit completely together by the time I graduated from community college and either succeeded in my original field (music recording) or gone to engineering school and finished before the pandemic.
For a long time, I'd say accept that nothing was going to happen with this girl I fell for at the time, and focus on my writing (what I was in college for at the time, with an eye to getting into a great program at the uni down the road for slighty less total cost than just going there).
I've since learned it's important not to focus on what you could've done differently in the past. It's done, and it lead to wherever you are today. But boy, did that person - more accurately, the situation I found myself in re: that person - cause a series of events that included some pretty dark times.
But who's to say life right now would be better for it?
I think I did pretty well at 18. If I could have met my future partner earlier that'd be pretty sweet.
Otherwise, I'm happy with what I did... so I'll go with the bullshit dumb answer of "Buy lots of Apple stock" because I've got nothing else to use it on.
If you're asking what you should do... find yourself, have some crazy sex, don't fall into awful vices like gambling. Just enjoy yourself.
Put more thought into realistic options for my career.
stop distracting myself from myself and come to terms with my identity
Regardless of this being a comment about your LGBT+ identity, this is good advice for anyone young.
All you out there 25 or younger, stop fighting who you are. Stop trying to fulfill other people's expectations of who you need to be. Focus on yourself and who you want to be and who you are.
Be happier.
I thought it was cool to be sad. To be edgy. 20 years later I realized I had just been depressed my entire life. So, my thing would be “get therapy and some meds.” It would have made the next 20 years a lot easier.
I wish I had gone straight into college even though I was incredibly depressed and suffering from cptsd.
I could have been depressed and living in a dorm and possibly getting into wacky adventures or meeting somebody to love me rather than being depressed and living in my truck and scooting from minimum wage job to minimum wage job for 7 years before I finally started to get my shit together.