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Just left the dust gross buthole of texas, and now love my new home in the Minneapolis Metro,and that's despite not having found the right combo of housing/job. I live in my car and have never felt more safe (from antitrans hate) than now.
can't really leave that recommendation without qualifying it: thats probably of because I'm not a POC. I do have interactions with the police fairly regularly. And i'm accutely aware of my privilege each time.*
I'm just south of that area now. I'm considering moving up there, but no plans yet. I haven't had great experiences with healthcare in the area and it's making me not want to stay
I'ma second MN, but a little norther: Duluth :3 It's extremely white up here but all' the hunams are very nice and helpy, and Essentia is a lovely health system as far as I'm able to see (rather, the people in it are wonderful :3 ). There are waitlists for everything, though. Uhhhmmm... dunno if you're as poor as I am but services for stuff relevant to that are pretty available. Easier if you can handle phone calls. Responses are mostly by mail.
Also, we have pride events that bring critters up from Minne(apolis) so I think probably reasonably pridey <.< I struggle to go outside much though :-\ Oh, and we're on the biggest of the 10,000ish lakes in the state ;3
Also, like the Twin Cities have Minne and the boring one, the Twin Harbors have Duluth and the crappy cheesy one 😅 At least, I hear the water's bad over there. Our tap water rocks! Is delicious!
Anyway, is nice here I think. wiggles farewellily, skitters away
I have read Illinois and Minnesota have decent laws on the books, and they might be more affordable than the other places listed (so far NYC, California, Seattle, and Denver). Probably better in cities like Chicago or Minneapolis than in rural areas, of course (which unfortunately means more expensive).
Why limit yourself to the US? Many other countries, including just about all of the other English-speaking countries, offer more trans rights than the US.
My plan right now is to get a degree and move out of the US in the next 2-3 years, preferably to somewhere in Europe. Texas isn't the best for trans people but since I got my license changed before the ban went in place (even though I'm def on the list :p) and I pass pretty well, I'm not too worried right now. Ofc that all depends on November, might have to emergency move to Canada if things end up going south 😅
As an immigrant you won't have the same rights as a citizen in Europe or Canada, and you will have to get someone to sponsor a visa for you to remain in those countries legally. It can be quite expensive, too - why aim for Europe or Canada and not a trans-affirming state in the U.S.?
I just know the US is not the place for me, and neither is Canada. I love the wide range of cultures in Europe, the walkable cities and public transportation, the better social programs, and the Schengen area allowing me to visit tons of other places in Europe on a whim. I just know it's right for me so I'm willing to work towards that goal, to get a work visa and work my way towards citizenship.
becoming an immigrant in a foreign country is generally much harder than moving to another state
It's hard to move out of the states, and my degree isn't a high enough level to let me get a work visa in my current field.
Where do you get the visa to stay in the country from?
Each country's immigration department website.
Denver is alright. Colorado idk. Denver pulls everyone here left. Though, for the most part I’ve been ok.
California
NYC is very queer friendly, so is Salem MA
It socks that all the places seem to be…. Expensive.
Seattle, WA
Vancouver, WA. Benefits of Washington but with lower cost of living than Seattle (although it is going up here), and right across the bridge from Portland, OR.