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I had to file a $4000 protective order against a former friend of mine when I came out bi after rejecting her twice. I was in the closet for over 20 years in the American South and thought it would be finally safe enough to come out earlier this year after living in the PNW for a couple of years. Guess not.

She was sending me shit in the mail, going around calling me a predator. She kept trying to find ways to contact me; going as far as a Google photos comment section she had a link to. I gained 30 lbs from stress. I leave the country next month, thank fucking God. I'm done.

This exchange was good. It's like explaining concepts to Patrick Star.

Duuuude straight women are fucking awful about biphobic shit. Straight women will be all virtue signaling and then all of a sudden say some shit like “…but I’d like never date an actual bisexual guy”

I’ve also had many, many times when I’d reject a woman’s advances, and get the ol’ “Oh are you gay or something?” No, I’m not gay (as if that were some insult?), I’m just not interested in you specifically.

People really need to stop caring what people have done in the bedroom with previous partners. You have to trust that they know what they want now and go off of that. Besides, someone who has bottomed before is going to better understand how to penetrate someone properly.

it’s just unattractive, no one wants to imagine their bf getting f*cked in the ass by another dude. it’s humiliating for him.

straight cis women are always saying the most out of pocket shit about gay men, doesn't surprise. they will also ape queer culture and fashion all day and then act aghast when someone mistakes them for queer lol. have seen this a lot. cishet guys do it too of course people just have a notion that women are like predisposed to be less queerphobic or smth

The reply that's like "it's not homophobia, I just prefer a masculine man, and a man who is capable of attraction to another man is less masculine" is killing me.

I'm sorry, how is "same sex attraction makes you less of a man" not homophobia? Or I guess the real question is how can someone who isn't openly bigoted, who recognizes that homophobia is a thing to distance oneself from, incapable of seeing that that's obviously homophobia?

Never dated a straight woman, even the women I dated throught my gradeschool years were bi or ended up discovering they weren't straight later on. Idk what it is about me, maybe its because I too am bisexual

I've been broken up with by women before for being bisexual.

More for me then. Bi men are fun in bed. I like men that’ll rail me and let me rail them in return.

wait like, half of this at least, is also discriminatory to SA victims. Do these people just tell men who are assaulted to fuck off?

in accordance with the wise adage "polling is bullshit," i'm gonna have to fact check this one.

The source is a Glamour magazine article. The "study" was conducted by Glamour itself. Almost no information about methodology is shared, including how respondents were located and contacted, what their demographics were, or what the actual questions being responded to were. All we are told is that they polled "1,015 women ages 18 to 44 about their own sexual identities and experiences." Needless to say, this is not a representative sample, and I strongly suspect these were Glamour readers responding to an online poll.

I don't doubt that biphobia is widespread, but I want harder evidence.

I know the women in my life trend more queer than the average, but given the voracious appetite among women I know for gay fanfics and/or yaoi this is wild to me.

Not that fetishization is preferable, of course.

Gals be like "we can be just as hateful as the fellas!"

The cishet mind is horrifying, why did I click that

That's cool I wouldn't date anyone who is homophobic or transphobic so clears that out immediately.

I live in a pretty conservative area and most of the women on dating apps wouldn't want to date me the moment they found out I'm bi