Her with Joaquin Phoenix, though it was heavier on the romance, or lack thereof, than platonic friendships
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Itβs a futuristic sci fi movie so it might not be what youβre looking for. Loneliness and alienation are central themes, though
I hadn't thought about it but yeah, that applies to nearly every character in the movie.
Moon
Moon is such a fantastic film in its own right. Absolutely shook me when I saw it the first time.
The main character is an unemployed mathematician with schizoid personality disorder whose social interactions are mostly with his old professor and the people in his apartment building. The movie is a thriller, but the main character's isolation from the rest of the world is rather stark. This is helped by the fact that it was filmed in high-contrast black and white.
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. Explore how it feels when you deliberately choose to lose a relationship.
Every movie written by Charlie Kaufman has elements of loneliness and they are all excellent
I can set up a camcorder if you'd like
It's been a while since I've seen it but Cast Away is about being stranded all alone and dealing with loneliness. I have a feeling this isn't what you had in mind.
The Perks of Being a Wallflower is one of my favorite movies. Although he's not without friends the entire movie, I think you might still appreciate it.
The new Joker movie is definitely worth the mention. Although depressing, I really appreciated the movie. It's not actually a superhero movie in case that's deterring you from watching it.
Although I haven't seen it yet, Lost In Translation is near the top of my watchlist. It might be up your alley.
Moon - Sam Rockwell lives alone on the moon.
Edward Scissorhands?
Welcome to NHK is anime about a NEET. He ends up finding some kind of friends througout the show tho.
Also what you're describing is basically the concept of a doomer.
I am a doomer
+1 for NHK ni yokoso. It also touches on social awkwardness and things like that as well.
Overall a very good watch.
Ok doomer.
Nice suggestion btw, love that show
Maybe not quite what you're looking for but Tom Hanks in "A Man Called Otto" might float your boat.
Taxi Driver
Does being lonely due to war and it's trauma count? If yes, I can highly recommend old soviet movie Come and See - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0091251/ Just don't get discouraged by country of origin, it has no effect on the movie.
That's the darkest movie of all time. You can't simply recommend it willy nilly without a disclaimer. This movie is heavy.
Indeed it is. It shows how brutal war really is. It's even more relevant today.
I'm not religious, but I literally felt what I can only describe as my soul dying and leaving a painful and heavy emptiness, during and after watching that movie.
The country of origin wouldn't discourage me personally. I even watched North Korean TV once just to see what it was like. It was really interesting!
So is the movie. It's really intense though. I mean really. It shows all the filth of war. And despite "hero" (a boy) is almost always among other people, he's in fact really lonely. Especially in his misery.
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I just watched Beau is Afraid, https://m.imdb.com/title/tt13521006/ and it was epic. One of the best movies I've seen in a long time.
I would rate this as 7.5 and really don't agree with the lower imdb rating here.
Lars and the real girl.
Donnie Darko
Stranger Than Fiction. Well, Harold does have his wrist watch for a friend, but he doesnβt know it.
it still my favorite film after all.
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"A Silent Voice" (anime movie) is my go-to when I want to feel profound emotions, even if it's crying about the fact that all my friends are hundreds of miles away or dead now and I apparently forgot how to make new ones.
So this is a bit special. Itβs very very low budget, awesome and free: Pretend That You Love Me
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I don't seem to recollect any movie at the moment but here are some TV shows or anime -
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Mr. Robot - one of my favourite TV shows, most people using lemmy might have already watched it.
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Boku no Kokoro no Yabai Yatsu - its about a very lonely middleschool kid's romance
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Koe no Katachi - very popular anime movie. Also one of my favourites.
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Bocchi the Rock - Anime about an extremly introverted girl wanting to play guitar in a highschool band.
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Re-Life - its an anime about a grown up guy getting a chance to re-live his high-school days as part of a experiment or something like that. It was pretty good.
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Lookism - its a Manhwa, but also has an anime. Basically the main character gets 2 bodies mysteriously. The original body is the ugly one which people bully him for and the second body is like that of a (male) kpop artist which people view differently.
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Death's game - it's a kdrama I recently watched. Although it doesn't exactly fit in with the theme of 'lonlieness' I thought I'd mention it.
P.S - some shows I mentioned here might not be as loneliness inducing as you think.
Home Alone, hehe
Wit, about a professor of English lit going through cancer treatment basically alone.
Night on Earth (1991), taxi drivers & passengers meet temporarily. Nobody's happy.
Jim Jarmusch always makes great films about unhappy people.
Dead Man is one of my favorite films of all time.
Come to think of it Dead Man is about social isolation, too.
Swiss Army Man.
The Bothersome Man (Norwegian: Den brysomme mannen)
Station Agent
Forgot about this one until just now. Definitely second the recommendation.
Not sure if it's exactly what you're after, but "Buffalo '66" checks the dark and lonely boxes pretty thoroughly.
The Hunt is a great one but it's about losing your friends and their trust, after a misunderstanding. Be prepared to shed a few fears