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[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

aubrey-sad What the fuck this sucks, whatever I guess Idc anymore. Blegh this is lame now I'm double disappointed somehow. VNs are reactionary I have decided!!!!! Fuck emmmmm!!!!!!! aubrey-rage-cry

Okay I know what albinism is but the text keeps playing up like she's gonna do something evil and dastardly. It does seem like a vampire game tbf... Hmm....

yeeeeOkay yeah no, probably not for me, I've been in the same state my entirr life. Tons of moving around but I dunno who knows, probably fine. It blows that they moved you around so much though, that's fucked.

just worried I guess about getting vulnerable enough to do it only for it to be awful and terrible

Yeah understandably y'know, that would absolutely not be any fucking fun. It's worth being cautious I guess, I would be in your shoes too in all likelihood. Hopefully you can find someone who is worth being vulnerable with sometime, tho.

kel-what Oh wow okay, huh that's a little more troublesome. Um, don't do that!! To be fair though she probably should have said like, Hey, you said you were uncomfortable with this, you sure it's fine? instead of just idly accepting it, Idk. Not very cool :/

Certified Silly Moment!!!! It can be hard to deal with but I think it's probably better than the opposite extreme at least, the never expressing anything. Sure as fuck doesn't make you or anyone else unlovable! (Yw, happy to help โœจ)

No prob and thanks again for sharing, it's good stuff cat-trans

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Noo there are plenty of gay commie VNs like... Uh.... Fuck

I'm not going to spoil what happens as much as I want to. The VN does have vampire vibes but it isn't a vampire VN.

::: spoiler bit more I mean it depends, did you keep the same social group during those moves? The trauma is more about breaking and reforming social groups to my understanding rather than actual distance. With that said, there's a reason I don't count the 4 moves this year, there's a difference between a move and a move and my experience is mostly with the latter.

I hope so too.

Yeah I mentioned it to my best friend and their reaction was basically "Sery don't fucking mess with kinks you're not 100% comfortable with it isn't healthy and it will impact you even if you think it won't." And you and they are both right it isn't and it did. Big whoops on my part. I guess my ex should've instead of just asking if I meant it when I said it didn't seem as bad as I expected, huh.

But what if I wanna be more like miss literally me from the evil orange book??? Clearly I should bottle it all up and forget my estrogen too while I'm at it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

smuglord C'mon, they don't even really make gay VNs....

madeline-bruh fuckin dumb fuckin visual navel shit

woo!Uh, moving after elementary school caused me to lose a friend group and then suffer through middle and high school, but not really I guess. Mostly I guess all the moves just badly upset my sense of permanence, made me weird about stuff and places. Really angry and shitty about it.

I believe u can meow-hug

knight-nod They're right yaknow!!! That shit can fuck you up, it's not good!! I wouldn't blame yourself, like it's bad to do but I 1000% see why you did it. Shoutouts to me participating in my ex's small pp humilation kink for a sec, which was an entire thing, blegh. Yes though, see if my wife expressed not being into something and then did it anyway, I'd be concerned. If voidgoblin wife then said "haha it wasn't as bad as I expected" then madeline-shock all fuckin everything is stopping, we are having a serious discussion about what we want. Your ex had a responsibility imo to ask you more about that, seriously that's sucky.

Nooooooooooo Maria Griffiths is a bad role model, look what I did aubrey-cry-2 Do not become an estrogenless ball of sadness and trauma pls!

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

(They actually do make gay vns I just haven't read any)

::: spoiler spoiler After elementary isn't quite as bad but it's still shitty and could've been a problem. It's worth exploring imo, if only to get more confident in your assessment of that part of your life.

Thank u :meow-hug:

I guess I shouldn't blame myself, yeah. I just feel like it's a case of my inexperience making me bad at relationshipping.

this is fine I'm sorry what. Actually please don't clarify I don't need to know. It sucks that she did that to you and I'm sure it wasn't your fault either :meow-hug:

Is it really that concerning...?

No, I will base my life off of the cool irresponsible trans woman who does drugs! :badeline-jokerfied:

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

I bet they're cringe!! I bet they're all like bad yuri manga!!! emilie-smug

spoileragni-pain Nah I don't wanna think about school again, fuck that shit... uh death to amerikkka instead...

meow-hug

It could be that, but inexperience is also not your fault either. Absolutely not your fault, although I think it's worthy to note that it might be easier for young people to hurt eachother in relationships that way, not knowing better. Def some of that with me, which...

basil-anxious-smile Yeah it was really epic, not the worst thing she did but like, man, y'know... But yes, I am pretty sure none of that shit was my fault. I was a stupid kid who didn't know anything either, but I def said I didn't want to and did not give enthusiastic consent more than enough times.

Um I think it is, a lot of normos probably wouldn't fuss it and just do whatever feels good for them, but in a loving relationship where all parties give a shit... if there's even a whiff of less-than-enthusiastic-consent, discussion needs to happen imo. Especially because you said outright you weren't comfortable with it, and then "it wasn't as bad" big honkin red flag for discussion to happen. I think especially anyone into kink like that should be more aware.

oooaaaaaaauhhh Heroin in a sock in the glove compartment time!

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

That's why we have an equal partnership, enthusiastic consent is extremely important when we've both been through trauma.
Lots of patience and care and open discussion along with respecting one another. Being very clear in what you want and don't. safe, sane, consentual are important rules to go by. comrade-raccoon

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Right, I suppose I just haven't internalised what that all means yet, thank you both :meow-hug:

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

You're welcome ^^ meow-hug