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[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

I am one of the palest people you'd meet lol like you can see my veins through my skin easily, even on my face. I never have trouble taking blood either you can see the veins track through my skin

i don't think i have the veins as visible as you on the face, but defs on my arms etc. tbh i think i'm like 80% you, but unfortunately i don't have the cool goth aesthetic going on, i'd describe my aesthetic more as "confused about fashion" mixed with "obvious tech worker" ... I don't think I'd stand out in a crowd that much (just as planned)... edit: or maybe i would? i do sometimes feel stares. people tell me it's because people think i'm cute... idk about that

I always cover up so I don't really use it, I wear hats and such to keep it off me, though when forced to wear it I have to have one that evaporates quickly, I have sensory issues with creams if they're too heavy.

yeah i feel that, i use different sunscreen for face vs body and defs it's a bit of a challenge with the heavier ones. i've been meaning to get into hats, but i'm scared about the subtext attached to them ("what does a big hat tell people about me??") gods i wish i could just stop caring about this stuff. biggest struggle for me with sunscreen isn't sensory, though, but breakouts, and i guess the smell can be a bit overwhelming (okay different kind of sensory), and sometimes they get in my eyes when i'm sweating in the summer ughhhh

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

i do sometimes feel stares. people tell me it's because people think i'm cute...

power-genius I bet you are cute, nerd

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

lea-blush

somehow the "nerd" at the end made it a lot more endearing lmfao thank you

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Yeah the skin on my face is very thin like if I don't have makeup on you'd see the veins fairly easily through the skin, I have ones near my eye sockets and where the skin is more translucent in places too, like see through.

i'd describe my aesthetic

My aesthetic is pale goth, wears dark clothes all year round. I have a presence that people won't mess with me basically.. I have people back off when I project it. But most will let me go about my business freely. I don't get stared at, I can become kind of invisible in ways, people won't really pay attention to me if I don't want them to lol I can intimidate people with it too, I have had a few store clerks freak out when I'm just standing and not know what I'm doing lol I'm usually just waiting or reading what's on the shelves or something. Most I can swoop around without them even noticing me.

I know fashion fairly well, I spent a long time growing up watching fashion programs, reading and learning about clothing and such, I also like makeup and smellies so I like scents too, I have a very good sense of smell.

"what does a big hat tell people about me??"

Most people don't care about other people around them, they are too busy wrapped up in their own little bubble. Fashion may stand out if you have a nice fit and such, people generally compliment others on that. Personally I don't care, you know how I feel lol but I really don't care what other people think. I usually wear lighter clothing under a very light coat or jumper so my skin can breathe in the heat.. but I hate feeling sweaty, it's torture, though I endure that because I really hate feeling the sun on me.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (2 children)

My aesthetic is pale goth, wears dark clothes all year round. I have a presence that people won't mess with me basically.. I have people back off when I project it. But most will let me go about my business freely. I don't get stared at, I can become kind of invisible in ways, people won't really pay attention to me if I don't want them to lol I can intimidate people with it too, I have had a few store clerks freak out when I'm just standing and not know what I'm doing lol I'm usually just waiting or reading what's on the shelves or something. Most I can swoop around without them even noticing me

waow-basedwaow-basedwaow-based

Literal supernatural void being shit

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

My wife actually has a real passive invisiblity buff somehow. Literal supernatural void being cloaked from the perceptions of others

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I get why you like the vampire game so much, you’re basically married to one

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

yea vampires my beloved

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Pretty much how I am, Ash can confirm how people are with me

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Yeah the skin on my face is very thin like if I don't have makeup on you'd see the veins fairly easily through the skin, I have ones near my eye sockets and where the skin is more translucent in places too, like see through.

that's cool as heck tbh

My aesthetic is pale goth, wears dark clothes all year round.

i like dark clothes better than light clothes, i think they work better with my pale skin, so i can relate, except i get sweaty in the heat and that is not fun, so i have to mix it up when it's hot (or, you know, stay inside in the AC lol), or wear shorts (ugh, i have HUGE scars on my legs from multiple surgeries due to a birth defect)

i love tights and stockings of all kinds though (except when the waistbands dig in) and i want to wear those out more, more skirts etc.

I know fashion fairly well, I spent a long time growing up watching fashion programs, reading and learning about clothing and such, I also like makeup and smellies so I like scents too, I have a very good sense of smell.

that's really cool! i found fashion programs ok when i was young, but my experiences on reddit have made me swear off the fashion community in general because i found myself being very limited and anxiety-ridden with what's "in style" - this is in part why I find binary labels so constricting these days, but i worry about how people see me so much.

i too have a really sensitive sense of smell, but i don't do scents on myself other than like deodorant (when i remember to put it on whoops lucky i don't usually smell too strong) because i'm worried about what that will say about me

Most people don't care about other people around them, they are too busy wrapped up in their own little bubble.

kitty-cri-screm how do i internalize this, i am so envious of your attitude about these things

I usually wear lighter clothing under a very light coat or jumper so my skin can breathe in the heat.. but I hate feeling sweaty, it's torture, though I endure that because I really hate feeling the sun on me.

edit whoops missed a sentence: yes i know that feeling, which is worse, sun or sweat. not an easy choice for me. i like the cold better because i can bundle up, wear scarves, gloves, tights, layers, boots, and not worry about sweating!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

It depends for me, I can mix it up a little but I tend to gravitate to black lol. I get too warm too but I shop for breathable fabrics which helps a lot too, thinner clothes work better in the heat in the Summer even if they're black. Skirts help and I love stockings too. I was born a month premature so I am strange shaped through that and I have a short ribcage and other weird things going on genetically but alas.

I just wear what i want really, I have some idea on styles and such but I tend to just wear what is comfortable too, I don't keep up to date with modern trends and such, I just know certain styles of shirts or skirts etc.

how do i internalize this

Keep saying it to yourself when you start to worry. If you observe people when out, you'll notice they'll just go about doing their own thing without really looking around them at other people, rarely do you get people observing the people they're more looking at the shelves and such.

I take sweat over the sun lol I also love the colder weather to the point where I can wear thin leggings in -20C weather and not have it affect me. I used to sleep with my window open in the winter too lol

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

It depends for me, I can mix it up a little but I tend to gravitate to black lol

it goes with everything! it gives nice contrast with my skin tone! it's slimming! it makes me look slightly mysterious! i agree, although i also have a fondness for coloured tights, you'll probably just catch me wearing dark fall colours with those though.

Keep saying it to yourself when you start to worry. If you observe people when out, you'll notice they'll just go about doing their own thing without really looking around them at other people, rarely do you get people observing the people they're more looking at the shelves and such.

would you believe i'm 15 years into transition, have a job where i need to be extremely social, and yet still haven't solved this problem? i will try your approach! (I observe people a LOT, i am unfortunately prone to staring...)

I take sweat over the sun lol I also love the colder weather to the point where I can wear thin leggings in -20C weather and not have it affect me. I used to sleep with my window open in the winter too lol

YES i love winter, although i do have to bundle up for it, i'd rather be cold than hot since i can always put on more clothes and be cozier, but in summer i feel less cozy with bare skin

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I sometimes mix in a little bit of colour too just to break up the black lol

15 years into transition

A bit ahead of me ^^

i am unfortunately prone to staring...

Yeah I was aware I can stare so I tend to change what I'm looking at a bit more frequently.

YES i love winter

Same, though I'm pretty warm blooded so I can counter the cold naturally, I'm like a radiator lol

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I sometimes mix in a little bit of colour too just to break up the black lol

sick yeah if you wear mostly black adding a little bit of colour really makes it pop, looks ultra-deliberate and very chic knight-nod

Same, though I'm pretty warm blooded so I can counter the cold naturally, I'm like a radiator lol

this seems like it would have a lot of benefits. i am totally the opposite lol i get cold so easy even in summer (maybe due to good AC or maybe cold floor?) (still love winter the best tho), and partner is warm, so i sometimes put my hands under his shirt to warm them up which he uh tolerates

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

yeah I tend to usr scaces and such for the colour

My wife basically uses me as a radiator lol which I enjoy because im always roasting and I enjoy the cold feeling of cold hands or feet