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Basically a repost pf things I said in the mega, but anecdotally I'm hearing that sales of fiction read by men are dropping precipitously, and English and literature classes in colleges are now dominated by women. It seems like young men are not being exposed to literature in the same way that they used to. Like, when I was in high school and college, you could be a "bro" kind of guy and read Chuck Palahniuk, or Hunter S. Thompson, or David Foster Wallace. For decades, authors like Hemmingway and Bukowski found receptive audiences in young men, not to mention all the crime fiction, horror, sci-fi, and fantasy that men have traditionally consumed. The "guy in your English class who loves David Foster Wallace" was a stereotype for a reason. I read in another thread that music is less culturally important to young men than it used to be. It seems like younger men just straight up see no value in reading literature or fiction, or exposing themselves or critically engaging with art and music, because the algorithms just railroad them into Alpha Gridset world.

Am I wrong about this? Am I being condescending and out of touch, or is this a real thing that's happening, where the whole "male" culture is turning into grindset podcasts and streamers?

Edit: Okay, so the impression I'm getting is that everything is worse but also kind of the same as it ever was, which sounds right.

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[–] [email protected] 53 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (21 children)

I don't know if it's attention spans or w/e but it does feel like fewer people of all generations are reading now, and when they do read, they just want slop. Anything that demands engagement or effort from the reader is denounced as 'badly written'. It drives me a bit mad tbh, because at the same time that people smugly reject good literature, you can see that they're unfulfilled reading the same old dreck for the millionth time.

A common thing I used to see on Book Twitter was people complaining at the lack of beautifully written prose that focuses on the interior life and I just want to scream THAT'S MODERNISM YOU'RE DESCRIBING MODERNISM, READ THE WAVES, PLEASE READ THE WAVES, IT WILL MOVE YOU SO DEEPLY, but the thing is that while they want that, they also only read YA dystopian fiction written in the past simple as an iron rule.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Most conversations I have with people my age start with "I saw this Tiktok...". Very dire. Don't care if I sound like a cranky boomer.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 month ago (8 children)

Eh, this one is a funny point tbh, do you get the same reaction when someone says "I saw this YouTube video" or "I saw this on the news" etc?

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 month ago

Depends on the context really, but yeah, sometimes. I don't mind any of it if other things get discussed, but it gets tiresome after a while.

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Anything that demands engagement or effort from the reader is denounced as 'badly written'.

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I HATE CINEMASINS

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It drives me a bit mad tbh, because at the same time that people smugly reject good literature, you can see that they're unfulfilled reading the same old dreck for the millionth time.

I think there is an unexamined craving for stimulating literature, the kind that actually provokes additional lasting thought about what is read, but that doesn't boost sales in the short term the way "My Boyfriend Is A Billionaire Navy SEAL Werewolf" or "Space Captain Murica Murderfucks The Cosmos" does.

lack of beautifully written prose that focuses on the interior life

From what I've seen, most people don't even know they might enjoy that and are just looking for some kind of perfect slop instead, sort of like a malnourished person that only has corn syrup options at a food desert might keep trying new food coloring varieties hoping to feel less sick.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago (3 children)

If something isn't immediately understandable it's "badly made". This is true of software too. The term "user friendly" has come to mean "can a clueless new/prospective user pick this up and engage with it immediately?" less "Does this provide the experience existing users want to see?"

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[–] [email protected] 42 points 1 month ago (5 children)

As a former educator that worked with teenagers for some time, I can tell you that it's possible to get kids interested in literature because they are still open to new ideas and can get downright habitual with their reading with the right encouragement, but unfortunately the Bill Gates-driven ruinous "reforms" that have dominated public schools for decades now have dictated that reading only matters as far as it teaches future workers to read and follow instructions, not how to think critically. Critical thinking was, and continues to be, something that a lot of parents outright abhor and see as some sort of evil influence.

Also, by default, most kids that cruise through school with apathetic teachers follow the defaults given to them, which are to aspire to escape peonage by becoming a parasocial parasite instead. mr-beast heated-gamer-moment

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[–] [email protected] 40 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

IT SUCKS IT SUCKS IT SUCKS

I'm begging anyone in my immediate circle to just read a book or think about what they watch just a little. You don't have to be a scholar, God knows I'm not either, but it's so BORING. I dunno, maybe it's me, but I try to like, have a slightly in-depth conversation about any piece of media or art or whatever with someone and I just get nothing. We're all hooked up to the slop spigot and can't turn it off.

Also GET OFF YOUR FUCKING PHONE WHEN WE'RE HANGING OUT.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I do not use any social media (except this site, I guess) and it is bizarre trying to connect with anyone else. When people ask for my insta or whatever, I just say I have a phone number and that's it. If you want to get at me, text me or call me. I don't look at my phone when I'm hanging out with people unless it's to show them a picture or video that I took. People are always showing me tiktoks and I'm just like, "Oh, it's youtube but worse." Algorithmic content is poison. We're approaching a point where people make zero choices about what goes into their brains and it's terrifying and also the lamest fucking thing ever.

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[–] [email protected] 37 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm not of that age, but imo it's more a technological thing than a generational thing. People, of any age, cannot put their phones down. I personally have to make the conscious decision to disconnect if I'm going to read something or watch a movie or whatever. I imagine that for people who grew up with smartphones, that's like cutting off a limb.

[–] [email protected] 35 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You may get a "kids were always like that" smuglord response, but before that happens, I want to remind everyone reading this that material conditions do change and having a monetized distraction machine in almost everyone's pocket is a material difference from previous generations.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 month ago (2 children)

People have been complaining that kids are constantly on their phone as long as kids have had phones, but, from the perspective of someone who was in high school when high schoolers first started getting cell phones, the most text messaging addicted person in my peer group back then would be about average from what I've seen now.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I remember when adults first got their cell phones on a wide scale and had to make a performative big deal of being on a cell phone in public, including holding up a line while there's people all the way out the door behind them, having to flex on the person being called.

"Oh hi. I'm at (place UlyssesT worked and was just trying to fucking survive). I'm on my cell phone. Where are you?"

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Remember the wired earpiece guy? Guy holds up a finger and holds his other hand to his ear: "Yea sorry I gotta take this."

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I still fucking hate those devices because some of the most insufferable douches that got me in trouble because they "had to take this" were distracted by them while waddling to the front of the line. I used to call them "ear fedoras" because of how obnoxious they were.

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 1 month ago (10 children)

In that sense, yes absolutely. There's a huge prevalent mindset of anti-intellectualism and hopelessness that leads to individualistic hustle culture with no appreciation for the arts. I think you'd see the same thing in any nascent fascist society in history, where any actual love for art is replaced by much shallower symbols in the service of reinforcing hegemonic masculinity. But even among my leftier friends, if I send them a message that's longer than 2 sentences I'm very likely to receive an "I ain't reading all that" (even a literal 3 sentence message).

I think music has probably retained a similar relevance for my age group as previous ones, but the way that people engage with music is a lot more easy come easy go, which means that unless you have a specific kind of personality you're unlikely to try to dig much meaning out of music, especially men with lower emotional intelligence. But there's still the same drive to make music a part of your identity, just shallower.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 month ago (3 children)

But even among my leftier friends, if I send them a message that's longer than 2 sentences I'm very likely to receive an "I ain't reading all that" (even a literal 3 sentence message).

This may bite me in the ass someday by admitting it now, but if anything crushes my morale in an internet argument, it's when the other person resorts to "u think u so smart" smuglord or outright "TL;DR" especially after demanding evidence of whatever I was saying.

It's pigeon-shitting-on-checkerboard tactics and they hurt because they work.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Not a man but I am in the age range. I mean it may be the case that more people are turning to parasocial relationships and falling into manosphere holes because of the internet. But also idk, maybe we've got to take stock of how misogyny plays a role into all this? Most men (and I truly mean, like 99% of them) don't want to unpack the way they hold privilege and power over women. In decades past in which men were reading books more, they also had legal control over their wives? Women were gatekept out of academia for centuries. We live in a patriarchy and that needs to factor into any analysis of men as a social class that happens.

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 month ago

ITT, generationalism bullshit. sigh.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Youre also asking rich white kids on a leftie forum

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

These are consequences of living in a system that rewards your individualism.

I am in that age bracket, and when I was in college I found it quite difficult to get friends just because of that. Young men are easily influenced by capitalist propaganda, and not only are they manipulable, but they like to feel that way. So, most commonly, they feel like they're in a competition all the time. If they read philosophy, they read about individualism and idealism (if they read philosophy at all). If they read fiction, they read only the misogynistic and crass author, and so on.

Of course, today we live in the society of spectacle, so these people do not usually read, but are merely educated by images. This, coupled with zero critical thinking, simply generates a wave of stupid, misogynistic and individualistic people.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago (11 children)

If they read philosophy, they read about individualism and idealism (if they read philosophy at all). If they read fiction, they read only the misogynistic and crass author, and so on.

yeah the only neurotypical young man I know of that reads outside of school is a libertarian weirdo who reads (or pretends to have read) libertarian shit, and maybe like marcus aurelius or something

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 month ago

Now that you mention it, yeah. Of my school cohort, me and my best friend at school are the only guys in the year who went into the arts. It's actually kind of insane.

At my uni, I was one of 2 guys in my class. In the whole year, it was me and maybe like 2 other guys who had any sort of traditional male hobbies/ways of presenting. Otherwise it was camp gay men, and a couple of straight guys who were just like, idk, theatre kids.

I think it speaks to a socioeconomic thing too though. Most other guys I meet who are in the arts are living off daddy's money.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Anecdotal, but my friend is a high school math teacher and said most of the dudes want to be in real estate. So, at least in that particular high school the grindset pipeline seems to be in full effect.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 month ago (7 children)

Is that in a relatively wealthy area? Could be normal if it's somewhere bougie.

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 month ago

I quit reading the minute I got a smart phone

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I don't know if anyone has said this, cause there's a lot to read here, but I think you're just seeing all this online. Nobody posts on their social media that they just enjoyed X, Y, or Z literature or art. I won't say for sure that this is because the people who take the time to genuinely enjoy these things don't really give a fuck to tell everybody else about it, but that's what I think is happening.

I'm pretty sure there's a term for this phenomenon that I can't think of right now, but yeah you're just getting exposed to drivel that is not representative of actual people.

I'm older than this range, but still a "Zillenial" for context.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

I'm in that age bracket and male and among the people I know reading literature is basically nonexistent. I constantly see people browse Instagram when randomly bored so a bunch of organizations use Instagram as their primary means of communication then I end up browsing Instagram to get updates from those organizations and get addicted to it like everyone else. Video games are social and also addicting so people prefer those over literature as well. Aside from that people have very limited time and want to spend the few moments of free time they have doing things that are more social, more engaging (which black marks on a white paper doesn't do a great job at, I can barely pay attention to them for like 2 minutes), or more relevant to their hobbies or future. With music on the other hand I've seen differently, a lot of people use Spotify frequently and I've met quite a few people who have strong interests in certain bands or genres. Also while the internet has caused all sorts of problems regarding addiction and misinformation and people not being as social, I think it has also caused people to be more connected and empathetic on a large scale since they see the struggles of people outside of their physical social bubble.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago

I'm a little out of this age range but I feel like my friends kinda grew out of that mindset. Like I knew a guy who wanted to get into real estate a few years ago, but nowadays he's a firefighter and certified EMS. Maybe it's a little later than previous generations but most people get their shit together by their late 20s, seems like.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 month ago

idk a lot of young people who read outside of school, and I do interact with HS and up people on the reg. But that also applies to older people ig. We're all on that slop train. And it's a lot harder to get an idea of what people are consuming when its all algorithms in their phone not a physical book in their hands or on their shelf. So idk exactly how fucked we are but its definitely not great.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Men no longer reading Western Canon Literary Classics, billions must die. I think youngmen culture was probably fucked long before dudes stopped reading fuckin Hemmingway.

Sure hope nothing silly happens in this thread snom

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 month ago (18 children)

what an odd reaction to have to my question

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 month ago

18 year olds listen to me bitch about capitalism

You're welcome?.. I think? bulborb-stare

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Younger people seem to read less novels and more stuff they find online like creepy pastas, fan fiction, smut, etc.

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