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Idiot question but how do you nerds read pronoun priority here? I always assume the first one is the primary, though I sometimes swap back and forth between them. I have long discussed bear website goings-on with my wife enough that this is worth considering tbh.
That's how I read it too, especially when they is the secondary pronoun. When the secondary is a neo pronoun I assume that's actually what they want but don't want to ask people to use it.
I try to switch them up if someone has multiple, at least when I remember to.
My own odd pronoun question is actually regarding the comrade/them ones. I know some people definitely use them as a genuine way to show they/them but I feel like there's a lot of cis people on hexbear at wide who use it just for the comrade bit? So I always feel like it's a little riskier to use they/them for someone with it. Might just be me reading too much into it though.
I don't think cis people mind being they/them'd, especially if its in their tags.
I refuse to degender someone, even a cis person.
I just use it for the comrade bit tbh
also comrade is a really handy gender neutral title tbh
Good to know, comrade. ~~glad that I wasn't crazy and did, in fact, correctly vibe how it was used.~~
Vibes based pronouns
I think we should all address each other as comrade if we feel like, but I think “comrade/them” isn’t necessarily just “comrade said x, I like them,” but it could also be “I like comrade,” idk that’s just my interpretation.
This is the cynic in me, but I put the they first in my pronoun order to nudge folks outside of just the binary pronouns, as I find they will default to she if at all possible.
Yeah, I have mine set up so the first is the primary.
Tbh, I don't really expect them to be used, but I think showing them both mostly just shows I have a queer identity. I don't expect them to be used because I hardly ever see pronouns being used here because users rarely refer to each other.
Have you switched them around lately
Yeah the underline is pronouns don't get used that often, lol. It is good for showing queer identity as well =)
Yeah, but only because your question reminded me lol
Very cool tbh
I definitely remember his pronouns being the other way around a few days ago.
This is what I figured, cool n based =)
Here, I'd probably lean more towards both are good.
IRL, if I see something like he/they being used by someone who would otherwise be assumed to be "she", I assume they have "they" for the cissies. Likewise for "she/they" who would otherwise be assumed to be "he".
On twitch, I list they/all because I don't really care and because I had someone apologize once for using something other than they and I was originally torn between they and all to begin with (I don't think both was an option back then).
I see, understandable
Yep, I would just assume that the first is primary (unless a user explicitly stated otherwise). Honestly seeing some people's opinions in this thread may change how I would refer to someone, for example, alternating pronouns used rather than assuming that the first pronoun is always the preferred/primary pronoun.
Now we know =)
I like she’s but expect they’s idk. Generally, I try to alternate. Sometimes I end up tending to one pronoun in one context and another in a different.