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[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago (2 children)

spoilerI have been living in unrepentant sin (please autistic lesbians though), other then that I've been good shy

No brianrot

Don't call me brian oooaaaaaaauhhh

I guess that's fair, I wasn't thinking of that. I'm sorry for all your suffering. I was just thinking about how you seem to be lately (I haven't known you all that long).

hmm, yea probably. At least more then it sounds like you do.

Why is that feeling not your favourite?

Wow you've gotten me at a really chatty day, I haven't shared this much about myself in forever. It just feels gross. Especially with (basically always) women talking about how gross people doing that makes them feel. I don't want to make someone feel that way, I don't want to be that, none of it.

Uh also I'm single(/not really sure when [or if but let's not get too doomer] that will change) so that makes it a bit sad too. Wanting something you don't have, its not great folks a-little-trolling

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago (1 children)

spoilerNot good enough for brainrot though!! Gotta save what little good you've been for the autistic lesbians =)

Don't apologise, I'm happy to chat about it and whatnot. You are catching me at my personal best though, I'm doin' great bridget-vibe bein' weird n shit.

I'm happy I caught you like this! We were just talking earlier about how you deserve stuff and freedom of expression, so this is productive!! The reason women (and also everyone else lol) hate when men do that is because it's objectification that is not fun or consented to, it's some random creeping on you. It's hard to tell what contexts are socially correct to do it in, but I guess generally you don't wanna be thirsting over someone right in front of you unless they are happily flirting back? Again just keep it in mind. You should ask TerminalEncounter or someone about this, maybe... You certainly don't need to feel ashamed for just having those thoughts though, you know? People adore bottom energy, and etc!

True but also people are single all the time and being incredibly gay and single isn't inherently bad or sad. Would be nice to have gf for those times though thinking-about-it

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

spoilerHell yea, love being at our bests bridget-yoyo-walk

I know. I think I'll just think about our earlier conversation, after typing and deleting a bunch of shit I think its just upsetting me and maybe I'll just leave it there. Thank you for talking with me.

being incredibly gay and single isn't inherently bad or sad.

I think we might just have different experiences. It is both sad and bad for me.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

meow-hug You're good. Deworming is just hard. Especially when it intersects autism, being trans, relationships, and sex. Doesn't get scarier then that.

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I think the issue is less having those thoughts, and more (usually) dudes not keeping them to themselves.

You shouldn't feel ashamed of them, that being said the idea of showing even a modicum romantic/sexual interest towards other women has always been terrifying outside of people I'm already in a relationship in, simply for the same fear of being perceived as a creep.

Like I can make the most heinous jokes towards the cishet men I work with, if nothing else because I know most of those fuckers are just as bad towards women. But the idea of giving even a platonic compliment on a women's choice of clothing feels intimidating.

I'm really hoping once I start presenting as a woman that shit will wash away, but who knows.