What is everyone’s favorite plushie? Mine is a little brown bat!
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WEBRINGS:
Transmasculine Pride Ring ![emoji flag-trans-pride flag-trans-pride](https://www.hexbear.net/pictrs/image/d5885494-34a1-4b13-be9a-59422fb54222.png)
Whenever I feel like I'm "faking it" I just think of all the hexbears who feel the same way, and then the feeling dissolves.
This place is powerful
I think I finally found a good summer style for myself. Hopefully we can get some spendable income by summer's end so I can actually look good this year. Then again, I should be careful with top surgery. My damned bust is already pushing plus sizes and I don't need to completely invalidate my entire wardrobe in one fell swoop.
Still need to figure out what my autumn/winter style is. I'll have to actually put thought into that before those months roll around.
my summer style: big goth dyke
my autumn / winter style: big goth dyke
my thought process behind this: "i think i wanna be a big goth dyke so i can kiss lots of girls and sack Rome"
Turtle necks are my go-to. They pair well with anything you want to wear over it like cartigans, but they also look good with long skirts or pants
feeling pretty good about last night despite being food poisoned. when is the cutoff age to be a princess?
What's up with this update?
I can only scroll for 2 pages. When I hit back from a thread, it always takes me to the first page. This shit sucks
Edit: I can only see one page!?
I've been making new friends and that's been nice
I have to get a safe and routine medical procedure (that I've had before) done today, but I'll need to be put under anesthesia. This is a really huge trigger for my anxiety, so I'm really scared. Tbh, I want to just cancel it and run. Could hardly sleep last night because I was so panicked.
Tomorrow, when this is all done, I think I want to tell my wife my new name and "officially" start transition
Today was a busy day for me. I finally got around to properly celebrating my mousy wife's birthday after having to put it on hold due to pain in the surgical area last week. I made her a lemon cake with lemon mousse between the layers and a lemon buttercream on the outside. It was fantastic, but I need to improve my baking skills as it wasn't quite up to my astronomical standards =w= We also had ham, mashed potatoes, and corn on the cob. Very standard and easy stuff, but still delicious no matter how you look at it. Twas a good day even if I am exhausted out of my mind.
I know that seems like a random thing to talk about in here, but it brings me gender euphoria and I really don't know why. It's probably because it's what my mother used to do for myself and my sisters when we were younger and I'm emulating her. Seems like the most reasonable explanation
I found my bus pass! (also used for some other services so really glad I didn't have to replace it again. Gonna probably replace it anyhow with a pride one though if I can get one this year)
ATTENTION EVERYONE! THIS IS NO LONGER SITE PINNED, BUT DO NOT GIVE UP! WE CAN STILL END THIS PRIDE MONTH WITH A BANG!
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666 comments? We can do it 🏳️⚧️
ranting about my flatmate.
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My Flatmate keeps asking me if I am still sure about being trans and hrt. I just about have had it with her. It's extremly annoying, and also transphobic. Happy that we have only a month left of living together. Maybe I'll get to live with people that respect my choices
Update at 3hrs, I like Celeste, it turns out making Super Meat Boy less slippery and less "boy" was what we call a pro gamer move. cool soundtrack, I like the story vibes even if I dunno how I feel about a classic challenge-platformer sandwiched into a narrative game, and I like that it's an asskicker but with an approachable learning curve. Collecting strawberries so I'm not left with nothing to show for my spanked, red ass
WE HAVE PASSED THE 666 THRESHOLD
kinda depressing trans related thoughts
Man... sure does seem to be difficult to get people onboard with the idea that anyone under 18 should have the right to determine their gender and do anything medical at all about it Obviously in western nations there's this ridiculous perception of one's children as property, as a mini-version of the parent subject to their whims, to live vicariously through, as a prestige item. I swear to fuckin god death to amerikkka, chuds keep saying The West Has Fallen, like god I wish.
But also just in general I think there's a lot of resistance to the idea that kids should be allowed to do anything. The anecdote the one gradder shared of some 27-year-old exchange student needing parental signoff blows my fucking mind. Granted, maybe that type of thing is less of an issue when parents are less dogshit, but Idk. It does not bring me joy.
okay, let me ask a question:
what does being visibly trans mean to you? like, emotionally. do you think it's important? is it something that you're comfortable with?
i am, in my opinion, pretty visibly trans doing a pretty visible thing and the only time i really remember that is when people talk about how it's important. i make a mental note of basically every time i've positively affected a queer person doing my stuff and those moments are some of the few things i actually keep in my memory when i need motivation. the best thing about being trans is the sense of community, even if not all of us hold exactly the same values. we're all on this ride together, for better or worse.
i think visibility is important too, i just don't see living my life as some sort of project or praxis. i'm doing the only thing i've ever cared about, as the woman i was meant to be, and i'm not gonna let anything stop me, especially not a transphobe. it feels like cognitive dissonance and it's progressed to the point where i literally forget i'm trans in public until i'm in a situation where i am acutely aware of it, either by someone mentioning it, being around another trans person, or being painfully, obviously alone in a sea of cis people. how the fuck do i keep forgetting a pillar of my existence despite actively being dysphoric almost every day? i'm torn between my identity being a foundational part of my personality and just wanting to forget about it when i'm out. i think passing fully would be great but i don't know who i'd be if i lost that thread tugging at my heart when i'm waiting in line at the store or whatever.
maybe that was all rambling and i'm doing my best not to give away too much info but it is something i'd like to get some perspective on. would you rather pass fully and live your life without any of the hard parts of being trans or would you rather live with the hardship and be a beacon for other trans/queer people to know that we're existing in the world and they can too?
would you rather
Second one easily. I used to be a selfhating dork who wanted to assimilate 100% but that shit is so fucking lame. I wanna get gendered correctly but I have 0 desire to blend in or anything. It always makes my day whenever I see someone with like a pronoun or trans flag or whatever, and it would be cool if I could give that back to someone sometime. ~~except once this person approached me while I was looking over a rack of DVDs basically staring at me and when I looked up they were like "Hi I was reading your hat!" Yes I have pins all over it but I fucking panicked and ran away holy shit sorry~~
I really desperately desire to feel a sense of community anywhere at all though so I don't really wanna hide or be invisible.
i'm torn between my identity being a foundational part of my personality and just wanting to forget about it when i'm out.
Given that not forgetting about it when your out in this fuckin society can be exhausting and strenuous, I don't think this is actually a contradiction? In a good world you could do both, imo.
i'm so sorry to keep talking about my tits like this but holy fuck
they're big enough to where i can like... shove my index finger right between the two of them while wearing a bralette there's enough of a gap to just slide right in there
Looking @ the nonbinary flag in this dork youtube nerd's profile pic, and a switch flips somewhere in my brain - Oh yeah, me now
Funny enough I always thought the nb flag was rad as hell. I'll be internalising this for probably the next few months at least - every other day it seems I recognise a new and funny way that being nb alters my being, feels good.
Dastardly controllers of featured posts: *removes trans mega*
Trans mega: "Fuck it, we ball "
All dressed up, nowhere to be, ever
I could rot, let's do it together
Yoooooo she jus like me fr fr!! I lied, Fishmonger fucks. Hits different the fourth time
i heard somewhere that "healhy" fats are good for helping tits grow. my roommates came back from the food bank the other day with like 8 goddamn pounds of almonds so I'm seeing if I can turn those into tiddies
Booba
My right titty be hurting a lot today No pain no gain, amirite?
My husband and I started discussing how we're going to tell our parents about me. It's stressful but I really feel like we are a united front.
Posting to make up for downtime. We need to get to 600 this time.
It's been 8 months since I changed my pronouns what. I thought I had only been thinking about trans stuff for 4 months.