A lot of these right wing freaks wouldn't be so sexist if they they talked to a woman irl once and while. Also politely asking someone out and then telling them exactly what you want probably beats the clusterfuck that is modern dating.
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The first step is teaching them to want something realistic, informed by what they feel deep down, and not dehumanizing so they can actually "wear it on their sleeve" when approaching a woman rather than feeling like it's a secret shame they have to insidiously spring on the woman at the moment her guard is down.
You are right But I believe talking to real women will help them have realistic expectations. Or real people in general The Internet is a very toxic place.
Yeah I think people retreat to the internet to halt their trial and error process of learning how to court and be told it's okay to keep halting
There's nothing wrong with just making friendly conversation, but you should not ask out random service workers because they have to be polite to the customer and it puts them in a weird spot if some stranger just asks them on a date.
Sure asking out anyone while they are on the clock requires a degree of social nuance they don't have It's gonna be like this viral clip of kai cenat and Kevin hart But as long as they interact with people in real life, they will start learning from their mistakes.
I had planned on doing this when I got out of the military, but Providence had it that I'd never have to try it out -- I'd be engaged to Keturah just before my discharge. But I say to any young man having trouble finding a woman it's absolutely worth a try.
“Well, no. I haven’t tried this myself. I am happily married. But you go and try this thing I made up in my head because it sounds romantic”
Eh. I mean, not the worst marriage practice by far.
Yeah, the part about specifically going to poor towns is suspect, but, like, is there anything more true to the idea of touching grass than to leave your house and talk to people in real life with the intention of meeting a serious romantic partner? Granted, I don’t endorse hitting on service workers while they’re on the job, but politely asking the IHOP waitress if she wants to grab a coffee later isn’t exactly sex tourism.
Normal people meet like this all the time and have normal relationships. This is 80% of the way to being extremely healthy and constructive advice, even if the other 20% came through the boomer filter.
Thing is, I don't think anybody who reads this, which is from one of those right wing accounts harvesting grievances about modern women, is actually going to do this. This is just a nice little movie the reader can play in their head or a salve-daydream they escape into in moments of loneliness before returning to porn addiction, a hamster wheel job, or NEETdom.
That’s kind of the sad thing. This is obviously just engagement bait for reactionary boomers, but a lot of people would legitimately benefit from logging off and having a conversation with a stranger in real life instead of spending 12 hours a day alternating between arguing on the internet and watching porn. This is almost broken clock territory.
The guy he's writing this for would do well to just attend a few social events at the local library first, there's no way he'd have the outdoors, offline comfort and social skills yet for a real road trip across towns he's never been to with completely different cultures.
I don’t know if most normal people tell their waitress that they’re looking to marry her lol
It probably doesn’t work too often, but I bet it happens plenty.
Honestly I'd hate if someone asked me out while working, idk if this is good advice at all.
on the one hand don't hit on people at work, on the other hand the advice this guy is competing with for an audience is telling these dudes to cw:sa
Like I said, I don’t endorse that part, but “get off the computer and talk to people” is advice that a lot of people would benefit from taking.
It's pretty exploitative but certainly better than "passport bros." I wouldn't judge a lonely guy for choosing to do this over the apps though, as a last resort.
E: maybe exploitative isn't the right word. But I would rather not use this method where the person you find is less likely to love you for who you are, instead they're likely to prefer you to the other options that were immediately available. It's only exploitative if you're a wealthy guy who goes to a poor area to do this and take advantage of desperate women.
I figure we're at a point where, in the US, marriage for purely economic reasons is on at least some people's radars, especially if it's a way to get out of a dying no horse town.
We really do be retvrning to tradition
Sarah, plain and tall.
Yeah that or it becoming like some Asian countries where one parent in a married couple goes to the city for huge portions of the year to work as a nanny, etc. and send money back. Either could at least make it harder for people in those towns to believe the cities are always on fire and running amok with armed robbers.
PLOT TWIST: these guys all end up marrying brassy, chainsmoking older waitresses named Barb or Midge who say stuff like, “more java, hun?”
Sounds like a win?
Finally, a passport bro solution for people on the no fly list for their 4chan posts.
When I marry my rural Amerikan bride, she must convert to Marxist-Leninist-Bidenism. Once a year we'll go back to her shithole state, like Connecticut or something, for whatever cracker holiday they celebrate there. Maybe Arbor Day, that sounds the least terrible.
Who doesn’t love a drifter targeting women?
it's fine, he's a veteran! the most stable kind of man to marry
rambo killed one man (IIRC) when he was a drifter veteran on a rampage. he killed dozens and dozens when he was an agent of the US state or when he was a white dude living in asia.
so, rather a drifter veteran than any other kind of veteran :)
What's with waitesses/cashiers being the target here? What chud worldbuilding lore am I missing here?
They are women who are obliged to be nice to them.
Bc a woman's place is in the kitchen, or serving a man.
I thought they were just cornering the poor women who are professionally obligated to talk to them.
Tbh considering we're talking about chud "dating advice" this is the tamest, most normal shit I've seen yet. Asking a waitress out isn't that big of a deal provided you actually take no for an answer which I admit might be a tall order for some of these dudes.
This was my read on it, too
I wish these men would take a look in the mirror and realize that all the “traditional values” they tout are just them acting like what they don’t like about women, they feel like the other party has to bring everything to the table and not them because they’re the “good” gender, and that is good enough.
To make matters worse, any woman can tell these Mfs aren’t looking for a spouse, they’re looking for an employee.
they're underpaid and perceived as easily exploitable.
Time to invest in waitress harassment futures 
:de-working-class-woman: What?
Look how weirded out that second girl is at having her picture taken by some creep
Probably just after he asked to go on a date and marry him too
you can be called whatever you want idc but i have never heard the name Keturah in my life thats wild
Read your Bible, sinner
Tried this in Canada and still got turned down 100% of the time.
fuck Canada
all service workers should have guns and be able to shoot anyone who ask them out on the spot.
all of those women were scared walking to their cars that evening. most people in customer service has been or knows someone who has been stalked/harassed by a customer.