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Trans Megathread for the Week of 10/14 to 10/20 (hexbear.net)

submitted 3 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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(i ripped this off wikipedia real fast so sorry if it's lib)

In October 1776, the Public Universal Friend contracted an epidemic disease and was bedridden and near death with a high fever. Their family summoned a doctor from Attleboro, six miles away, and neighbors kept up a death-watch at night. The fever broke after several days. The Friend later reported that [deadname redacted] had died, receiving revelations from God through two archangels who proclaimed there was "Room, Room, Room, in the many Mansions of eternal glory for Thee and for everyone". The Friend further said that [deadname redacted]'s soul had ascended to heaven and the body had been reanimated with a new spirit charged by God with preaching his word, that of the "Publick Universal Friend", describing that name in the words of Isaiah 62:2 as "a new name which the mouth of the Lord hath named".

From that time on, the Friend refused to answer to their deadname, ignoring or chastising those who insisted on using it. When visitors asked if it was the name of the person they were addressing, the Friend simply quoted Luke 23:3 ("thou sayest it"). Identifying as neither male nor female, the Friend asked not to be referred to with gendered pronouns. Followers respected these wishes; they referred only to "the Public Universal Friend" or short forms such as "the Friend" or "P.U.F.", and many avoided gender-specific pronouns even in private diaries. When someone asked if the Friend was male or female, the preacher replied "I am that I am", saying the same thing to a man who criticized the Friend's manner of dress (adding, in the latter case, "there is nothing indecent or improper in my dress or appearance; I am not accountable to mortals").

editorial note: I think this is a very cool story and I really love hearing it. We've been around forever and we've been doing variations of this forever. It's really beautiful

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago (3 children)

whining, dysphoria

I haven't complained about it in a while, but voice dysphoria continues to be terrible. Want to come out to a friend or two, but the thought of using my voice, egh. Obviously the actual coming out can be over text, but after that bocchi-cry

I can't explain it. I hate pretending to be a boy, but saying I'm a girl and sounding like this...

Voice is just disgusting and horrible. All wrong. I don't have any idea how I'd want to sound either, if I could pick.

I know it won't get better without voice training, I know I need to, I know I should, all that. I'm not trying right now, I just can't. I know nothing will get better until I do. not worth continuing this and typing out all my self hatred.

spoiler I've said this before, but I'm thinking about it again and not like I can tell anyone irl I remember not liking my voice changing during puberty. Thought that was normal and I'd like it eventually. Clearly I was wrong, and tbh I wonder if I'll ever like my voice again. Current trajectory isn't looking good. How sad. Just ruined by T. ::: fwiw yesterday was quite good for me, very calm. A nice break from some of my usual struggles.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago (3 children)

madeline-stare Y'know lotsa girls sound like you though... maybe even me smh... Like you don't actually have to voice train, you can just go anyway. And "ruined" like, you can "fix" it...

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Voice can be rough, but it is something that can be changed. It may take a lot of getting used to, but you will eventually find a voice that you like. I struggled with voice a lot when I was first transitioning as well, it felt like it invalidated my feelings and being a girl. A few months in, and although my voice is nowhere near where I want it to be, and I've barely done any voice training, I feel much better being out to friends and not having to pretend to be someone else. It can be scary, but if they're accepting of you, having people to be yourself around will make you much happier meow-hug

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I've had enough time to think and process, so I'm writing a message to my past therapist to explain why I think she was exploitive of my trauma and acted with her own agenda instead of validating what I was feeling

It's so hard to write a message like this. I feel like everything needs to be airtight and my feelings need to be absolutely irrefutable, with as little emotion as possible.

Tbh I've wondered if this was just self-indulgent and ultimately achieves nothing other than potentially causing her to rescind her surgery letter. I think I'm willing to take that risk.

After the majority of 2023 dealing with (cw: mistreatment from health professional)

Being told not to talk or think about phallo for an unspecified period of time (until she felt I really lived with a vagina)
Using my short term identity/dissociative issues against me (that came from trauma and not being believed by people around me)
Not even writing down past conversations about doubts leading up to surgery
Dangling ending our working together whenever I pushed too much for phallo and started to get frustrated that I wasn't allowed to talk about it

I don't want to spend another day worried about the consequences of not making someone happy. I can get another letter if it comes down to it. My current therapist finally brought that up last week and supported me in my decision, so that's good. I'm not sure what I'm hoping to get out of sending this message other than being heard, though maybe that's all I need.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago

Bee Movie 2, starring Cleveland Guardians starting pitcher Tanner Bibee as a

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 days ago (6 children)

it is 2018. place japan enjoyers are coming up with increasingly esoteric ways to deny that a trans character in japanese media is trans stfu-terf

it is 2022. place japan enjoyers are coming up with increasingly esoteric ways to deny that a trans character in japanese media is trans bridget-smug

it is 2024. place japan enjoyers are coming up with increasingly esoteric ways to deny that a trans character in japanese media is trans

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago (1 children)

As a little folkie guitarist, lemme just say that one of the only good things to come out of ukkk is their beautiful tradition of folk music.

Currently learning one of my favorite guitar medleys. It’s a really fun challenge. I love the sound of an acoustic guitar played well in alternate tunings. https://youtu.be/rSD9qg9biC4

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 days ago (3 children)

If I could bend reality to my will I would turn every straight piece of RanAka fan art into yuri when I see it.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago (2 children)

utterly fucking deranged boomer film

Sometimes I feel slightly compelled to watch Myra Breckinridge. Deranged obviously, but so so funny a concept. I forget where I read this like, essay or narration talking about how Myra is this idol of an evil lady who destroys men's asses and their manhood, was that in Fucking Trans Women or something? It kind of rules.

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 2 days ago (5 children)

Are trans people genuinely this much cooler than cis people or did I just get unlucky with the cis people in my life and lucky with the trans people?

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago (10 children)

i'm completely dead and still in shock i think. we spent the entire day bailing water out of our flooding house. this rain was like an order of magnitude worse than anything i've ever seen. the landscape has changed, so much soil eroded. not to mention the new person who is just incredibly toxic.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

drought's over, shit's flooding horror @[email protected] & i were in full crisis mode for a moment there

pls send any & all energies you can spare spirit-bomb blob-help cat-trans

e : for context this is a 300yo stone house

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Me with pronouns

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

Powerful! yummy

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

bruv, why is the zoo so expensive? like my wife and I are gonna go on the weekend, and it's £27 a person. I know they spend a lot of that money on conservation efforts, and it's not exactly cheap to look after all those animals. but ~60 quid for 2 people to go is not cheap! especially as with that kind of a day out you factor in transport costs, food and drink, ect. I just wanna go say hi to the penguins fam

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago (8 children)

just remembered this time when I was 14, when my English teacher spent an entire lesson, out of nowhere, telling us all her new age spiritual beliefs like indigo children, and higher spiritual states and shit. I loved it, because I didn't have to do shit for an hour

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago

One of my favorite English teacher moments was in high school. We were studying Macbeth, and a question on a quiz was “where do the events of Macbeth take place?”

My friend answered correctly, “scotland.” She marked it as wrong and wrote in “Scott Land.” biblically-accurate-kitty

On the next quiz she asked the same question. My friend said fuck it and wrote “Scott Land.” She marked it wrong and wrote “Scotland.” monkey-typewriter

Still one of the most utterly absurd things I have beholden in education that wasn’t just lib shit.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 days ago

What are your hair strats? My hair isn't super long, but reaches down a bit past my neck in the back, and is straight. I'm looking for ways to have more fem hair on days that I want to, but be able to kind of turn it off on days that I don't. I want to talk to a stylist, but I don't want to go in completely blind

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago (2 children)

no motivation to voice train

listen to seventy seven dog years

motivation to voice train

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 days ago (4 children)

if I voice trained I would have to hear my voice, so I'll pass.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 days ago

Kinda sus that pianos have 88 keys

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

disco elysium if it was woke:

Prochoice Leyton Messier:

Dolores DEI:

Call Me Womañana (she/her):

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

DE Spoilers

the-deserter the bourgeoise are not human

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Is it toxic that I like when people I date are a little bit annoyed with me?

[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

No, just the sign of God's favourite style of girl. A brat

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

venting

i wish i lived in anything approaching a civilized society where it would be acceptable to take off at least a couple of years to work on healing trauma rather than having to somehow juggle that with the stress of every day life under capitalism with a brain that has a horrifically low tolerance for stress

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 days ago

::: spoiler early AM NSFW thought

A cabinet of dildos, call it the Library of DONGress.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 days ago

Having sushi and cake for breakfast. Bougiest breakfast I've ever had lmao

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

suicide, toxic bs, drugs

so we got another person here like a week ago & it's been acting like a fucking dickhead the entire time. doesn't respect boundaries, emotionally manipulative, constant aggressive behaviour like throwing & breaking shit. last night it was suggesting it was gonna kill itself & like wtf is anybody gonna say to that?obviously this isn't v compatible with this lifestyle. the kicker is tho, the idiot actually did od! didn't succeed & is now acting like nothing happened. i'm literally so furious i circled around into this zen kinda mode. like jfc, this is how you go about your long awaited chance of actually living your life? i fucking swear, i'm gonna drag its sorry ass all the way to the nearest town if that's what it takes.

i don't think there exists an emoji potent enough to express how i feel.

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 days ago (1 children)

driving home behind a fire engine with flashing lights is scary ngl. instantly my brain is convinced i left the oven on and my house is burning down (i did not and it was not)

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