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Hello everyone! Hestia here with a new Megathread! Years ago, before I transitioned and when I was still in college I took an anthropology class. My favorite part of the class was when we were covering different gender customs across the globe and got to make a report on one of them. I can't remember exactly which one I chose for that project, but what I do remember is a map with different pins scattered on it with various forms of gender-queerness. I decided to track it down and share it with you folks!

https://www.google.com/maps/d/u/0/viewer?ll=8.016975588774075%2C64.4248907814756&z=2&mid=1zDWxhBN5aOofwpE-FkZWQsiFDlE

Edit: you have to open this in a browser, if you're on a phone it will automatically try to open it in Google maps and won't bring up the info.

This map provides a brief summary of these genders, but does not go in depth. If you find any you're interested in, feel free to do some further research and share your findings here. I'll pin a comment to this post you can attach them. I'm going to share a couple that I found interesting and decided to look further into myself, both of them are non-binary and native american in origin.

The first one I want to talk about is the Winkte, which is a third gender role that was particulatly notable in the Lakota tribe The Winkte are seen as half-men, half-women, and considered sacred. They are typically AMAB and historically have served unique roles in matters of romance and matchmaking and often served as intermediaries for prospecting couples and their families. They also participated in war parties, functioning primarily as witnesses to battle and as doctors to care for the injured. They were also seen as seers, able to forsee paths to victory.

https://www.sdpb.org/blogs/arts-and-culture/the-winkte-and-the-hundred-in-hand/

This next one I'm going to talk about seems mostly local to the Zuni people called the "Lhamana" and I find the Zuni culture to be particularly fascinating, even just doing a cursory glance at it.

Gender roles were well defined in Zuni culture, but the Zuni also valued the concept of a "middle" as it represented stability. This originates from their creation myth, which I won't go in detail here because I don't feel qualified to summarize it, but it's in the link down below.

The Zuni culture is pretty neat and they don't refer to gender when talking about children. They believed that gender wasn't an inborn trait but something you acquired as you approached puberty. I wish this was the western approach, but alas.

As children approach puberty they begin to differentiate through different hair styles or clothing choices. AFAB Lhamana would grind corn and make a bowl of stew when they get their first period. There's probably some cultural significance to this, but I'm not going to do a deep dive on it right now. AMAB Lhamana would start to wear dresses once they hit puberty and start performing women's work. Both AMAB and AFAB Lhamana were allowed to switch between male and female gender roles as they pleased.

https://owlcation.com/social-sciences/The-Middle-Gender-in-Zuni-Religion

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 hours ago

We have this family in for one of their kids. The other kids visit daily. They have one little girl who is both cute and creepy in the way only little girls can be. She comes riiiight up to me and just stands and stares at me, like just 10 cm in front of me and stares. Says nothing. Just smiles. Adorable

[–] [email protected] 10 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

dysphoria, social anxietyHave a (free, yay. well, included in membership cost) consultation with a personal trainer/physical therapist guy at my gym coming up to help me design a better routine and diet and stuff

I talked to him yesterday but I'm not out at the gym and idk if I wanna out myself but I don't want to make things awkward there since it's like, the only "third place" I have rn

I dunno if telling him "yeah I really don't want bulky arms and shoulders and I'm trying to grow my hips and ass" would give him the hint or that'd be weird and don't really know how I'm gonna navigate that conversation

I guess I can come up with a plausible alibi about training for hiking and that I have a job offer to work for the forestry department so I'm wanting to work on my legs a lot for steep hill hiking for that?

The staff there all seem cool and it's a pretty inclusive gym (seen multiple other queer ppl there) but for some reason it's way less nerve-wracking thinking about just vaguely coming out to someone as just broadly queer than saying "uh, I have The Genderβ„’ actually"

I dunno

I feel like I'm more nervous about it than I should be but that's like always the case for me (GAD)

I'm doing a lot better overall the last month or so than my usual though? Idk, any thoughts? Thank you nice internet ppl cat-trans

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

i whine about workif i have to do another presentation for a huge group of people next week i am going to scream, it is so exhausting, i'm an hour into work and i feel like i need to sleep, AND i spent all day yesterday preparing for it too... i miss doing my "real job"

edit: also, i guess i'm channeling "Tim Allen's Neighbour" vibes today as I rearranged my desk and my webcam is behind my monitor, so only my eyes and up are visible when I turn it on, lmao.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 hours ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 13 points 9 hours ago

I LOVE MY TRANS COMRADES

[–] [email protected] 21 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

today I just want to lay in bed and listen to music, but I have to work πŸ˜’

[–] [email protected] 21 points 12 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 17 points 11 hours ago

it really is smdh why can't we all just live in a temple complex in Sumeria somewhere? we really fell off

[–] [email protected] 10 points 11 hours ago

a fanfic I just started following dropped 5 chapters coming in to 6500 words, all of them in the last six hours, fuck i wish i had that level of energy in anything anymore tbh

[–] [email protected] 11 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

I don't know if this counts as news, since there's no ruling yet, but this case is probably worth paying attention to, especially for our UK comrades. cw for transphobia.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

CW transphobes pretending to be feministsFunny how the terf in the article holds up a sign saying "Women's rights are not hateful" while having murder in her eyes and the distorted grimace of somebody who spends every waking moment hating trans people. Could it be that she simply doesn't give the tiniest fuck about women's rights?

[–] [email protected] 11 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

The article talks about chromosomes etc but given that like 1-100 people are intersex and xx isn't the flat standard for even cis women, any definition of women down this line will inevitably mean several of the big terf crowd will no longer be "biologically women" by their own standards and that's kinda funny.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 7 hours ago

Terfs are 100% willing to throw intersex cis women under the bus to discriminate against trans women. They do not give the tiniest fuck if they exclude a woman who is AFAB, has spent her entire life as a woman, has raised several kids she's born herself, doesn't even know she's inter and just happens to have XY chromosomes and androgen insensitivity. The same applies for endo cis women who are mistaken for trans or inter people because they just do not look steretypically feminine enough, and they demonstrably do not shy away from throwing members of their own movement under the bus. Hating trans women is literally all that matters to these people. It is worth every abject cruelty, breaking of principles and heartless sacrifice to them.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 7 hours ago

You're not allowed to bring up PCOS when talking to TERFs, it's too powerful lol.

There is no definition that will include who they want to include and exclude who they want to exclude on the basis of BiOlOgY because, ultimately, womanhood (or any gender) isn't a biological category. And even "femaleness" is obviously not as clear cut as they want. I'm getting bottom surgery in a year, a couple of my coworkers have had hysterectomies qnd oophorectomies and are lamenting the lack of speed in getting HRT. In a year from now we'll have the same set of organs, have the same complaints about getting and taking Estrogen, moan about facial hair, whine and complain about how women get treated in the workplace, etc. Like, "biologically", what's the big difference?

[–] [email protected] 14 points 16 hours ago (3 children)

I think I sing as a stim. It really clears the brain out, not much else to focus on when you are. I tend to get riffs or lines stuck in my brain anyway, like the chorus line to Baron Saturday... I'm definitely not any good at it at all, I'm just some nerd plus I never took voice training very seriously, but also my singing is definitely a blessing to these walls and anyone who hears it.

I'm probably "best" at old Who songs and 1970s Golden Earring stuff like that, but I most enjoy trying to do KT Tunstall (even if I could never pull the high notes on Other Side of the World) or 70s era Heart tunes. Maybe this is why I really dig low smoky femme vocals, Idk.

Just belting random things out 24/7, absolutely breaking into song for no reason at the drop of a hat. It's more productive than a picking stim!!! (My throat hurts ow)

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

mental health improvement?One of the things I realized recently about my depression improving that I hadn't really made note of until it hit me the other day was that I'm singing and humming to myself sometimes when I'm alone for the first time in ages? I'm not a good singer and it can be frustrating having a fairly small range and my pitch control is a lot worse than my ear so I'm acutely aware of how bad at it I am lol but it's been kinda nice? I was singing "Smoking Section" by St. Vincent in the shower the other night and stopped for a sec like "wait wtf, I'm singing to myself?? What is going on??" tucker-catboy catgirl-huh

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 hours ago

FUCK YEAH MASSEDUCTION MOMENT lets-fucking-go Uh it rules I recommend singing loudly and badly as much as possible honestly.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

There's a really good music theory book called The Harmonic Experience by W.A Mathieu. It's a text book kinda about the contrasts between Western music and tradition eastern styles like Raga or Maqmat, specifically how Just Intonation works. He explains music theory using history and the actual math and physics regarding how vibrations become harmonies. For example; to have a piano that is tuned for Raga or Maqam music, you would need around 36 keys per octave. A regular piano is 12 keys per octave. We landed on 12, equally spaced, keys because they're "close enough" for our ears to bridge the gap.

Anyhow, the first half of the book has singing exercises for ear training. It's a really good music theory foundation and not too difficult to work through, if you're interested. I 10/10 recommend.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 hours ago

aaaaa music theory jumpscare catgirl-huh

[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 hours ago

Good stim!!!!! catgirl-heart

[–] [email protected] 17 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

CW: Talking about top/bottom surgery29 hours until I have to be at the hospital for my surgery. Losing my mind. Just as excited for this as I was for bottom surgery a couple years ago. Finally will get my lopsided tits fixed. Gods know I always wanted large breasts even before my egg cracked. They're big enough as is, but now they're going to be BEEG. Can't wait.

That being said, I'm also getting a minor revision to my bottom surgery. I'm looking forward to that because that, too, somehow got lopsided >w>

[–] [email protected] 13 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Good luck with the surgery recovery and outcomes!

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 16 hours ago

I pretty dramatically put my fists on my hips earlier today and oh wow they actually kind of hurt? holy shit are they doing what I think they are?

[–] [email protected] 16 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

spoileri had ^sex^ with a very cool and beautiful person who made me hyperflush

[–] [email protected] 16 points 17 hours ago

Phrasing... when I read this I didn't read the emoji as part of it...

[–] [email protected] 20 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

going to ruin Thanksgiving this year by being a trans woman, getting drunk, and then screaming about how this holiday is a celebration of genocide and that we're currently on the stolen land of the Notdoxxingmyself people

[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 hours ago

Check out Atun Shei Films' videos on King Philip's War. The 2nd generation of puritans in New England waged a horribly bloody, racist war against indigenous people. Good content on our horrifying history.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 13 hours ago

Sounds like a great way to ruin Thanksgiving. Would be fun to be there!

Fortunately it should be a small immediate family thing for us this year.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 20 hours ago

Do they make shark plushies that are like 6 feet long? Can't find any on aliexpress

[–] [email protected] 10 points 19 hours ago

been going to a lot more concerts/shows since transitioning, turns out dressing up and going out can actually be fun lol

partner found a really cool artist. i've been listening to them and it turns out they're anti-cop, anti-monarchy, sang at a pro-palestine protest AND has a show in my city this Friday??

we bought some tickets and i really want to try to make some friends this time but idfk how ohnoes

[–] [email protected] 19 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

I haven’t gone swimming in years.
I used to love swimming.
I wish I could do it without worrying about how I look or body image issues or other people.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

I've used tuck tape! It worked really really good. Dunno if you'd, specifically, go for it but there are lgbt only swim nights in some cities. My friends do that, don't even tuck for it.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 19 hours ago

It’s not as much the penis as much as other things

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 22 hours ago

holidays, family, wistfulI can't stand spending time with my family. They're hateful miserable people, just awful to be around and reactionary as fuck and during the holidays their bullshit is dialed up to max. When I came out, I decided to cut them off. I didn't want to hear their hateful opinions about me or my transition. I didn't want to give them the chance to hurt me again.

And I'm overall happy with that decision. But now the holidays remind me how small my world really is. I don't want to be around mine but I do wish I had a caring family to spend time with. One that loves and appreciates me for who I am.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 21 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 13 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (2 children)

The image didn't upload for some reason, and I am also still unable to upload images :( Just imagine two cartoon lesbians cuddling please

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 hours ago

thats weird I was already imagining that for some reason

[–] [email protected] 7 points 12 hours ago

I see the vision rat-salute

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