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[–] [email protected] 22 points 4 months ago (14 children)

trans people will be 23 and walk up to you and say "I'm 31, actually" and pull out their ID that makes them older than they really are. No girl, you're not a day over 25, stop lying, you do NOT look remotely that old

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 4 months ago (1 children)

It’s good to have peace of mind when doing injections now knowing it is actually working madeline-smug

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 4 months ago (4 children)

Wearing one of my biggest t-shirts and it's long enough that it's almost dress-like now that I'm smaller. Feels good.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 4 months ago (12 children)

Posting here so you guys and gals can win, I hate the news mega sm. angery

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 3 months ago

Damn I'm really just walking out the house like not trying and people talking about how cute my outfits are. Sorry I can't help it I'm just really cute πŸ˜”πŸ‘―

[–] [email protected] 22 points 4 months ago (11 children)

navel gazing, cw discussion of sex related stuff
spoiler I'm having a whole day today, a lot going on internally.

I guess maybe it's being NB (again) or else I've had some kind of internal seeing-the-light moment, but I have pleasant, weird and new perceptions of myself and my expressions and a lot of things I do.

If you asked me six months ago what I thought of being touched below the belt, I would probably have said "don't even fucking think about it". Now though, I can honestly say that I have had sex without any real dysphoria, which in itself feels weird. I've been a dysphoric little bitch my entire life, and now it's just... fine? I did not feel the need to instantly pull up the covers or whatever afterword. I'm not convinced that my junk bothers me in sexual terms. Cool?? Could I have spent the last decade not suffering if I'd just forsaken binary genders?????? Did it really have that much of an impact on my self-perception and everything??? I guess so...

To be fair, part of this is all that excruciating trauma processing I did a couple megathreads ago =) My mind and its stream of consciousness will still float away and think irrelevant things if I let it, but having put in all the work to actively rein that shit in means I can think clearly about whatever is currently going on, ask myself what I want, what I'm gonna do. I feel ridiculously clear headed now; whereas before I would barely speak, I have a lot less trouble expressing what I want. Maybe I will be ready to do something funny and kinky at some point?

TL;DR crush yeag :::

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 4 months ago

Hey trans thread, I just helped a gal amend her birth certificate. Being trans is alright, but helping other trans people? That's the real good shit.

Working a culturally-specific job is like the best move I've ever made for my own emotional wellbeing.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 4 months ago

In our Soviet Union people aren't born; organisms are born. Here, people are made β€” tractor drivers, mechanics, academicians, scientists, etc.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (4 children)

wife: I'm happy to be alive! what did you do to me?? ahhhhhhh

I can fix her, but it actually worked

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago

feeling good. glad to have people around me who actually see and understand who i am and what i'm doing

[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Even if I feel like I'm bottling things up I again revert to lurking and not saying anything

Even then, I can't externalize without being very serious, cause "silly" is childish and childish is bad in my head

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (1 children)

One of these days my gf is going to slip up and I’m going to have to have sex with Shadow the Hedgehog madeline-sadeline

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (3 children)
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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (4 children)

sometimes you stay up till 3 am and that's fine because it was fun

nn niko-sleep

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (6 children)

on the other side of another night on shrooms, this time with one friend and fallout london. i found myself using wasd to scroll on this page and realized my brain was still fucked up

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (3 children)

friend-visitor-1 So now that there's endocrine disrupting chemicals everywhere, especially in the affordable food, it's like free HRT right? Haha

No, they just make you fat and tired all the time. They also give you cancer friend-visitor-4

friend-visitor-3

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (13 children)

So trans people having a higher incidence of Autism and mental disorders is legit right? My therapist gave me one of those eval questionnaires for OCD and apparently I do be obssessing (not so much compulsing, although she said it is still possible to have one and not the other)

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (6 children)

Need to find a local trans discord that isn't so horny all the time. Like compliments are pretty nice but I have a bf!

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (2 children)

BLEGH I woke up all SWEATY and I posted comments in the WRONG MEGA, shameful and unpleasant kitty-birthday-sad

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

Was it a huge tactical error to be honest with the kkkanada gubmint about my gender on a disability application? I just realised I have no idea if this will disadvantage me or whatever, or if it even matters. Like, are they gonna be fuckers?

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (4 children)

Y'all are dming eachother??? I've been using this site for like 4 years between different accounts and I think I've given or received a dm... three times.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (4 children)

The transfem urge to take over the world.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (17 children)

If I slowly transition silently like a frog in a pot of boiling water, do you think the cishets would notice?

What if I played it off as something that just kinda happened on its own, like I was the last one to notice?

If nothing else it'd be a good gag.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (3 children)

Damn it feels good to be a trans woman 😎

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 months ago (5 children)

the amount of dating drama the heterosexual can get into pales in comparison to the humble polyamorous trans girl

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (12 children)

this instance is way better than libshithole i came from

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 months ago (4 children)

Tired of internet arguments. I hate the culture that makes everything feel like one-up-manship

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (17 children)
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[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 months ago (8 children)

My breasts have felt sorer and sorer the last few days and today they legit hurt like they used to the first couple months on E, what gives? bocchi-cry I'm over 6 months in now, I thought I was done with the super sore era.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I was crying about boob growth and posting on certain forums that this place doesnt like about how i can still boymode in { muslim country } without a bra. today ive worn a shitty tshirt and realized that i cannot boymode without a bra

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago (3 children)

Went out with my hair done and a girl top, And when I caught my reflection, sometimes instead of a guy, I saw an ugly chick

This is progress, folks lea-happy

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (13 children)

chat, what color should I dye my hair? ridiculous colors only, I’m not going to dye my hair a natural color. I’m aspiring to [brightly colored hair] and pronouns.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

My subscription to traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns is still pending, can someone get on it and accept it? /s

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (6 children)

whining about needles

how the FUCK do i get over my fear of needles for injections.

I've been doing this shit for 4 months at this point and I still cannot do it myself (my girlfriend has injected me every time) and today I cried like a fucking child because i was so frustrated i couldn't do my injection because my anxiety was so high.

I hate this but I don't want to do any other form goddamn it.

Maybe i should switch to subcutaneous from intramuscular but i already have like 5 dozen syringes and filter needles.

God this sucks i feel so stupid

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 4 months ago (2 children)

really awful horrifying sexual trauma processing ft Paul Takes the Form of a Mortal GirlWeirdly, despite the fact I stopped having rejection-sensitivity-fueled breakdowns about A Novels, I find Paul is still giving me psychic damage, maybe more now than before. Not in an obvious way, but to where it fucks with my mental state and makes me wobbly and weird and anxious and worried.

Literally I think what's happening is that, to an extent, some certain depictions of sex acts between men will fucking freak me out. My ex and I were both ostensibly sad little gay boys when we met, so uh there was a lot of that, and a lot of that did not stop when transition started, which is where the trauma mixes in. The only memories I have of "male sexuality" (as in ostensibly being a guy during sex) and the associated terms and acts are horrible and traumatising. I guess it's to the point where when similar things show up in a weirdbook, psychic damage.

This makes sense since I have not really read gay-dude sex before, this is kind of the first time, Paul is a lovely complicated little weird thing. But it's kind of fucking lame and I don't really love the idea that certain kinds of sex just EXISTING will trigger my fucking trauma, that really distresses me. I guess that's reality though? So here's to not reading about dudes having sex I guess...

I hate this, this is terrible, I've been feeling really good about all the sex stuff recently, but I guess it makes sense I would stumble into "damage" at some point. Blegh...

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (14 children)

I threw away about 80% of my wardrobe, I want to go for a more nonbinary wardrobe. Anyone has useful resources and such? For summer weather, I have to add, it's hot here and I feel it limits me quite a lot in this regard as I don't like showing skin that much. Clothes here are very expensive so I was looking to get some stuff over from Temu as I've gotten things from there before. I'm completely garbage at color theory or basic fashion

edit: and fashion advice in general, I always said I go for the practical looks but don't want to look bad

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (5 children)

in that gender zone where im like 'but what is a woman then? Gender is just a construct, so what even is this?' then i realize that i didn't fall out of a coconut tree and I exist in the context of all in which I live and what came before me

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Parents misgendering me again. aubrey-pain

I don’t have the heart to correct them, I’m moving out in a few months.
Hopefully the next time they see me they will feel stupid ever having done it.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 4 months ago (22 children)
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[–] [email protected] 20 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (4 children)

deathWe had a kid die this morning

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