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Sending good vibes to all of my trans comrades 
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if i get my new account set up i want to be in the running. i still have the trans sonic picture saved
BBC coverage of the Olympics keeps refering to Algerian boxer Imane Khelif as 'they' rather than she. vile behaviour attempting to strip a woman of colour of her womanhood, a common racist colonialist tactic. the white lady lost, go find another grift
News mega: country is at WAR and fascism is RISING and weeks are becoming DECADES!
trans mega: it is fun to be cute and take estrogen
tw: outing
spoiler
I was recently clocked and subsequently outed in public in a busy coffee shop by another trans woman that I did not know in front of my social worker. Is it not bad form for another trans person to come up to another trans person like that? The most I ever do is silently nod/acknowledge another trans person's existence in public and go on about my day.
It would be different if she was in distress or needed help or something, but she just wanted to shoot the shit with me and talk about our transness which made things very awkward for me with my social worker. It really pissed me off that another trans person would do this to me.
Is there a Trans Code of Conduct?
:::
If you want to acknowledge another trans girl in public, you compliment her shoes or her outfit or something.
So I just came out to like a ton of family, and they are all taking it well which is very surprising to me.
Is it weird that I feel weird as hell? I've been thinking about this for like over a year and like, it's done, and a part of me is scared that I'm actually not trans, that I'm cis, and that I will have to go back... It's weird.
Like I've been doing this for a while now, really almost a year since I started socially transitioning.
8 months on E, I've never really felt better and like all my suicidal ideation issues are pretty much gone. I see myself for the most part. I am happy. Then why do I feel like I'm lying to myself? Why am I so scared that maybe I was all wrong? I don't wanna end my transition. But like I am so so so scared I'll be forced to for some reason... Idk this is a really confusing feeling
righteous fury, cishet scum discussion
lemmy is filled with SO MUCH TRASH and cishet scum intruding on trans places. this is the only fucking place that is safe and filled to the brim with trans people on any site on the internet im in. even random discord chats let cis people come in and berate the trans userbase, and of course theyre fucking wastelands with a handful of libs in charge.
i'm so fucking glad i own guns and live out in the middle of nowhere, if i ever had to deal with these transphobic cis fucks within 5 miles of me theyd be grizzly chow
anyways, how are yall doing today? π
deprivation
Been housing more homeless trans folks. Y'all, I'm worried. This past year has been a spike our mutual aid network hasn't seen before. We're stretched real thin :x One house is housing four trans people in two bedrooms
Fuck Biden, America, etc so on and so forth
I am now a mod of /c/transgender on lemmy.ml. If you have a lemmy.ml account and are interested in modding and purging transphobes, please message me.
It canβt be a micropenis if itβs statistically above average for most women 
I hereby declare it illegal for any cis person to make "I identify as" jokes. Any violation of this rule will be met with the harshest of consequences. 
overcoming internalized transphobia
i've known that i'm trans for like 8 years at this point and while i've always wanted to be a woman i've never felt like a woman, just a guy trying to be one. recently though i've been making a lot of huge changes in my life and about 5-6ish weeks ago i got on an anti-depressant and an anti-anxiety and it has done so much to change my mental state. i never realized just how much fear i was constantly in before starting the meds, it was so omnipresent that i didn't even really notice it. so now i've been working through my anxiety and fears and my low self confidence and my self hatred over the past week and i had the realization of "holy shit i am a woman". it just like hit me like a ton of bricks, for the first time in my transition i've overcome my self hatred enough to actually view myself as who i am
it's kind of terrifying realization
but i'm working through fear instead of running from it like i would in the past. i've been really bad about self-sabotaging and i would usually run away from things that made me happy. like if anyone complimented me it would make me feel like shit instead of feeling good, being miserable is what i know, it is what is comfortable. the idea of being happy is terrifying, it's scary and unknown. so i would prevent myself from doing things that would make me happy
a couple days ago i kind of just realized that fear is just a thing, it can be ignored or worked past, it's just something that needs to be endured before it can go away, and i've got to stop running from anything that scares me
presenting full time as a woman is horrifyingly scary, and beforehand i would look at that fear and come to the conclusion that it is never something i could do. but now i know i can, i just have to overcome it and the fear will go away
i'm feeling very hopeful about the future now. i think by the end of the year i'm going to be in a really good spot with all of this 
Cat me on the streets: 
I donβt like being trans, people stare at me
Cat me on hexbear: 
I love being trans, itβs a privilege to be able to post on the traa mega
This Olympics trans panic is completely fucked up. What everyone said would happen when you police gender, there's no trans women to attack so they go after cis women who aren't feminine enough.
The weird thing is that if you use a broader lens on gender (Leslie Feinberg, Judith Butler etc style), where gender non-conforming, "masculine" and "butch" women are transgender, a large swath of female Olympians are kind of trans masc coded just by virtue of being extreme sportswomen.
It's like reactionaries are gazing on this secret truth of the universe that gender is a construct and these gender norms are being subverted by countless atheltes, and then doing a complete 180 to be like "oh they've got to be a man".
'I like hanging in trans spaces just because I like the memes, I'm still cis tho. You can be cis and voluntarily surround yourself with memes about transitioning'
STATEMENTS DREAMED UP BY THE UTTERLY DERANGED
Watching someone be really really autistic and really really trans at the same time 
laniakea and other superclusters are angels. this is what angels look like
fuck the news mega. here's some news: i'm fucking gay as hell and there's nothing new about that.
cw screenshots of modlog
new purge seems to be going swimmingly, great stuff.
Cooking together with your lovely t4t life partner really is a peak experience tbh. Gay t4t stir fry gang
You (fem) 
HRT isn't reducing my muscle mass
Me (chad) 
HRT isnt reducing my muscle mass
fuck cis people, fuck the olympics, i'm doing a trans version and we're also incentivizing doping. who care
advise on family hostility
My mom just made some comments on how I changed my appearance and that she hopes the changes arenβt permanent. Iβm not out to her yet and Iβm not sure how to navigate this conversation. Iβve said that these changes are important to me but I canβt really explain why without saying Iβm trans. If I tell her Iβm trans she might understand better but she will interrogate me to death basically and Iβm not sure if Iβm ready for that yet. If I donβt tell her then sheβll probably keep commenting on my appearance because Iβm definitely not done yet with changing how I look.
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Today I went out for the first time in a while, just a quick run to pick up a Craigslist buy. The person who greeted me was so friendly, and complimented my outfit. Tomorrow my best friend (who is also trans) comes over, I'm super excited. 
jk rowling should have another middle aged moment and die of heart disease
self medication
i think i have a reputation for knowing how to get hormones. i just get random people messaging me asking for help with it, who have been put in contact by mutual friends
wish my boss didn't go to the only kickboxing gym in my area, i want to learn but i don't want to spend any more time in the same building as my boss
Sometimes I kinda miss the hopefulness and excitement of being early on hrt.
"I wonder how big my boobs will get."
"My skin so soft now~~~"
"Fat redistribution!"
Now it's like, I did it. My body did the hormone things. It's actually very cool and I'm mostly happy with my body most of the time (when I'm not dealing with Fun House Mirror Brainworms Disease) but it was really exciting when it was still happening. I miss that.
Estrogen is fucking rad. So cool hearing about y'all getting started.
the other day i had that major breakthrough in overcoming my internalized transphobia and seeing myself as a woman and something really weird has happened in the days after: i look physically different. i've always had a poor sense of self image and tried to avoid looking in mirrors whenever possible, but still this was kind of shocking, like i just look like a different person. i'm really happy about it, but it still was kind of unnerving
ramble about perception
when i was a teenager and a young adult i always had a fear of psychedelics or any other substance that could alter your perception and cause hallucinations, which i could never quite explain. but i think i get it now, i was so scared at the idea that my perception of the world could be false, that i could see or hear something other than what actually happened. the idea that i could trust my perception of the world gave me a lot of comfort and i didn't want to admit that sometimes the brain messes up processing and it's possible to be wrong about what you saw
in hindsight it's a really simple and obvious idea that the brain is just sometimes wrong, but this idea that my perception always was true kind of held up my anxieties? like if my perception or conclusions about something are wrong, maybe my anxieties about something could be wrong too? admitting that an anxiety about something is wrong and that there is no reason to worry is incredibly hard, and i don't think i could have overcome this if i didn't have my meds
my perception about things has been proven to be wrong a lot recently
watching this Blue Hair Queerβ’ go down the list of harmful queer media stereotypes, predatory lesbians, depraved bisexuals, and just being like 
I'm hanging out with one of my closest friends tonight and I'm hyped for that
kind of curious if the timeline of baby trans to trans elder is more influenced by time spent transitioning, hitting transition goals, or both
i just got divorced
the breakup was ages ago and friendly, but the divorce took so long to process. now i can marry my partner 
Looking forward to the utter havoc and sheer hilarity that will be unleashed as a disability support case worker lady tries to parse a relationship involving two nonbinary lesbians.
cw: transphobia, trans panic in the olympics
feeling shitty about this most recent trans panic at the olympics. like goddamn there's no transwomen competing, but it's not enough. you have already pushed us into the fucking margins, but i guess you just have to push us right off the page to be happy. fucking phelps can be winning swimming while being a goddamn mutant, but a CIS woman having too much of the fucking satan hormone in her veins and everyone is crying about π€―fairnessπ€―. im really tired
all the best to the two enbies and that one transman in there though. hope they win big and break chud brains 
